Have you ever had a song speak to you to your core?
To a point that you’re breaking down in tears and feeling the beat through every vein of your body?
Two weeks ago, I was driving on the interstate and had to pull over; right there on the shoulder while cars were zooming past me going 80mph. I was sobbing uncontrollably. You know, that horrific ugly sobbing when even the most waterproof mascara cannot withstand the outpouring of tears. That kind of ugly sobbing.
It hit me suddenly without warning so there I sat until it passed.
I have heard Kesha’s new song Praying multiple times. The song is her speaking out after a horrific legal battle with her former producer that she accused of drugging and raping her. She was silenced as he ultimately won the battle of legalities of contractual obligations.
Her response in Praying is a beautiful ballad of triumph. She speaks about how she has overcome the last four years. Any woman who has struggled through a hard time can relate.
I’ve never been very quiet about my turmoil of my divorce at 25 and subsequent custody issues where he eventually had his rights permanently terminated of his 6-year-old son by the state of North Carolina.
Last February he gave me an ultimatum; Either 50/50 custody or he was going to walk away. I was never against 50/50 custody however he was living a very unstable lifestyle. He was telling me he was moving for the third time in 10 weeks but he promised he would no longer miss his weeks/weekends. I told him to show he can be reliable for 6 months and we’d do it but we legal paperwork.
He was not for it. He wanted it right away or not at all.
He ultimately did not want to pay child support anymore.
I eventually told him to do what made him happy. If he was happier to leave, then go be happy. If walking out of his child’s life to no longer pay child support made him a happier person, then do it but I was not going to ever fight for him to be in his child’s life. A child that looks just like him. A child whom he has been a part of his life for the previous six years. A child that loved him unconditionally.
I never thought he would actually leave and never look back but I was not going to force anyone to be in his life either.
As I hear Kesha’s words, it speaks to every ounce of me. For the last two years, I have prayed that he would change his ways. In the early days I prayed that he would realize how important being a father physically, emotionally and financially was important. Now, I pray he has changed.
I pray that he will change and never hurt a child like he hurt his first born. I pray he does not treat his girlfriend the way he treated me. Maybe we were young but I went from a strong independent woman to a trapped childlike girl. I couldn’t move. I couldn’t breathe. I felt constantly trapped and tried to escape to be told I would never amount to anything. That I was damaged and that I was unwanted.
No one should feel that way.
But I know I can only forgive so much. I have forgiven enough to be able to move on. I can never forgive the pain I continue to see on my son’s face because he thinks he did something wrong.
I can never forgive someone to walk out over child support payments.
I can never forgive someone who chose a girlfriend over their child, not once but twice, after only knowing them a few short weeks.
If you've ever felt the way I have, I hope you can be touched by a song. Music can speak to our souls and allow us to feel emotions we don't always know is there.
So if you find yourself on the side of the highway breaking down, know you are not alone. I've been there too.
Direct Sales and Home Based Businesses are becoming the Norm. It allows women to stay at home or make some extra cash for their families. These businesses are providing women a way to put their children in sports or after school activities, plan family vacations or throw a birthday party.
So we're here to celebrate those #bossbabes who work from their phone and by going to your home to share these products with you.
Samantha is a #MomBoss of three littles. She's an ambassador for the skincare line Nerium and rocks it daily as she tends to her littles.
Nerium has transformed the anti-aging industry with their streamlined product offering, clinically tested to deliver proven results. Nerium focuses on cutting through the clutter of age-fighting options to bring you multifunctional skincare products and novel nutritionals that address all your age-fighting needs and fit easily into every lifestyle, so you can look better, feel better and live better.
Rodan & Fields
Amy is a #BossBabe as she's rocking her Rodan + Fields business from home. She wants to help other women feel beautiful in their own skin with R+F's products.
Rodan + Fields was founded in 2002 by Dr. Katie Rodan and Dr. Kathy Fields, the makers of ProActive, as a department store brand. Rodan + Fields® is redefining the future of anti-aging skincare. Rodan + Fields is a premium skincare brand built on a legacy of innovative dermatology-inspired skincare products backed by clinical results.
Kayleigh is another #momboss with three littles at home. She started selling LuLaRoe in 2016 and has helped thousands of ladies find their perfect LuLa piece!
LuLaRoe is one of the fastest growing apparel brands in the U.S: founded in Corona, California in 2013. LuLaRoe’s comfortable, affordable and stylish clothing is sold by more than 80,000 Independent Fashion Retailers in unique, exciting in-person and online pop-up boutiques. LuLaRoe’s varied styles and patterns make the brand attractive to all types of consumers, whether they’re looking for the perfect style to transition from work to a night out, a way to dress up their every-day leisure look, or are on the hunt for their unicorn leggings. Pieces are designed to mix, match and layer.
Heather is a #BossBabe with a little girl and another little on the way. She loves her flexibility of working for Mary Kay and sharing to everyone why she loves this company that's been around for 5+ decades!
Mary Kay started in 1963 and has become one of the most well known beauty brands in the United States. Today, Mary Kay is a top beauty brand and direct seller in nearly 40 countries around the world. Mary Kay is well known for their make up and skin care that has transformed throughout the decades along with their Pink Cadillac drivers for their top sales directors in the company.
We only met ten of the vendors of the show out of the hundreds that are in attendance this weekend!
However, she really got me intersted in an amazing blankets she has! I am eyeing this perfect cream one for my bedroom and teal for my living room!
All this weekend you can have braids, waves or brow tutorials throughout the weekend for $10!
When I started learning about the new “mattress in a box” concepts, I was so intrigued by not only the materials used but also the price. So, I dug in deeper to find the bed that was best on the market. Insert Snoozecube Bed.
I reached out to snoozecube bed to partner up with this post. I wanted to see if this new phenomenon of mattresses being shipped directly to your door were worth they hype. Were these mattresses as good as the memory foam beds from the box stores but for a fraction of the price?
First, a little backstory on me. I started having back pain around age 12 but it only got worse. During my first pregnancy I could barely walk at times so I went to get tested before the second. During these exams they learned I was developing arthritis in my spine around L2-L5. The pain was horrendous but also got me on track to getting help.
The doctors did their best in ensuring I was on the right track of healing. Although we had a great regimen figured out, it didn’t stop myself from waking up exhausted and in pain. Each night I would wake up and need more sleep and some days I would sleep in until noon just to feel like I got enough sleep. 12-14 hours of sleep and I would still be exhausted.
Sleep is the most important part of being healthy. Adults should sleep an average of 8-9 hours of good sleep per night. My 12+ hours were interrupted with tossing, turning and trying to figure out if I was hot or cold. I would wake up multiple times a night to readjust.
I work from home as well. I love to just spend the morning sitting in bed, watching Netflix and answering emails. Within 30 minutes, my hips would have excruciating pain so I would need either lay down or move to my office sans Netflix and blankets.
Since sleeping on the snoozecube bed, I have gone to be at 10pm and woke up at 8am each morning – refreshed. Something I have not done in years. I have sat in bed an entire Friday working and answering emails without my hips going numb. I have gone to the chiropractor and he saw immediate results from a good night’s sleep.
A good night sleep was the answer to all my issues.
It’s more than just the best sleep of my life that makes me love this bed, there are some techy stuff that caught my eyes too!
- The cover is washable. With a seven-year-old who spills things and just day to day life, I love knowing I can throw the cover into the wash to get the gross out. If it’s badly damaged, then I can just order a replacement. No need to worry about a completely damaged mattress due to an accident.
- Therma Gel Memory Foam. This is legit! I am one of those people who go from hot to cold to hot again while sleeping. Every night I would wake up almost every two hours between one extreme or the other. Since sleeping on the snoozecube bed, I don’t wake up because of major temperature spikes.
- Complete piece of mind of my purchase. This was the only mattress that had a 180-day money-back guarantee. That’s crazy! A complete 6 months to ensure that this mattress is right for you? Yes please! On top of that, they have a 15 Year Full Warranty.
Oh – and the customer service. We had a few questions and had answers almost immediately. I cannot think of the last time I needed help from a big company and didn’t have to jump through hoops.
I can’t forget the best part. My little was jealous of our bed. He said it was like sleeping on clouds so we got one for him too. He now is a proud owner of a snoozecube bed himself. He tells everyone he meets how much he loves his new bed and that they should have one too.
Take his advice. Get one yourself today!
I’ve been dreading this week. I knew it was coming. I wasn’t ready to be angry at the hateful and rude comments that were going to start coming out.
This week Kim Kardashian West announced she will be pursuing gestational surrogacy for her third child.
As a former surrogate, my blood boiled. Not because she is using a surrogate but because of the exact opposite. I was already angry at the commenters who had no idea what surrogacy is about.
There is a stigma for heterosexual couples or single women in Hollywood who use surrogacy. Two gay men? Single Father? No big deal. But celebrity women involved in surrogacy almost always receive a stigma that they just did not want to ruin their body.
Very, very few cases of surrogacy are due to career or body issues. VERY FEW. I’ve only heard personally of three surrogates carrying due to those reasons. But guess what, it's still their choice to do so.
But that certainly isn’t the case here. The fact that it has been brought up is disgusting. She publicly went through two horrific pregnancies and surgeries after both to try and conceive again. She has a HOLE in her UTERUS. She’s had blood transfusions. She had her placenta scrapped from her uterus because it wouldn’t release. Her doctor told her that she had a major chance of dying while trying again.
I wouldn’t want to die trying to have a child.
Surrogacy is normally the last chance effort for families. It isn’t a spur of the moment decision. These parents have gone through testing, meetings, crying nights and financial discussions.
Yes. Financial discussions.
Surrogacy costs on average 90-130k. Costs can vary based on many factors. The surrogate may not have surrogacy friendly insurance, therefore either a new coverage will need to be obtained during open enrollment and paid for by the intended parents or the intended parents will pay cash for all services.
Also, the first transfer of the embryo may fail. And maybe the second. And maybe the third. They may need to make new embryos. Each failed transfer and each new egg retrieval + fertilization costs money. There is only a 60% chance on average that an IVF procedure will result in pregnancy whether you transfer one or two embryos. Transferring two only increase the result of multiples – which is risky.
Even as a celebrity, no one wants to fork out that cash to have a child. But they do it. People take out second and third mortgages, max credit cards and borrow. In most states, surrogacy IVF treatments are not covered in the insurance. Actually, IVF treatments aren’t covered at all in most states.
Don’t tell someone they need to adopt.
Would you tell your newly married heterosexual couple friends that they should adopt instead of conceiving the “natural” way? Nope. You would never tell them what to do in their bedroom or how to procreate their family. So don’t tell the infertile.
It is not the burden of the infertile to carry the weight of the orphaned on their back.
Oh and adoption isn’t cheap either.
Adoptions are seriously expensive as well and it isn’t guaranteed you’ll have a child. Surrogacy isn’t either and there are natural risks that can happen but for the most part, once you hit the viability stage of pregnancy, it is very likely you’ll have a child in your home.
You definitely will know you’ll leave a hospital with a child in your arms unlike in adoptions where the birth mom has 48 hours to decide post birth.
We’re not Lifetime Movies
Bless it. I love Lifetime for some juicy crazy drama but too many think their dramas are the real deal. There’s never a good surrogacy story or outcome on television or in movies.
That also includes the news. Some surrogates do go off their rocker but it boils down to missed steps each and every time. Please don't judge surrogates on a few bad apples and television drama.
Surrogacy is in the Relationship
Each relationship between surrogate and IPs are different. Some become lifelong friendships and others turn out to be more professional. Both are okay. However before anyone stabs a needle in their stomach or hip, you go through a lot of testing. You do medical testing. You go through multiple psychological tests and therapy meetings.
You have a contract that is legally binding. You list out each situation that may occur and how it is handled. They contracts are – on average – 25-50 pages in length. I was uncompensated and ours was still 29 pages long and I have seen contracts at upwards of 89 pages. The more details involved the better. You’ll both have representation to look out for your best interests so there shouldn’t be questions or issues when a situation comes up.
The Law isn’t always on our side.
Very few states are very surrogacy friendly, California being one of them. Here in North and South Carolina, we do not have laws for or against surrogacy. That essentially means if something were to come up and when parents apply for a Pre-Birth Order, it is 100% up to the judge.
Some states have laws preventing surrogacy for certain reasons. Louisiana only allows surrogacy for heterosexual couples. New York does not allow for a surrogate to be compensated and even if they are not compensated they are notorious for making the parents adopt their biological child. Michigan do not recognize contracts and a surrogate fled there to avoid losing custody of the child.
Surrogacy is a beautiful thing. I wish others really understood what surrogates actually do. I have been called many names from a cash cow (I wasn’t even compensated) to being told I was a horrible ‘mother’ for abandoning my child - that isn't even biologically mine.
Intended Parents through surrogacy deserve the right to have their children just like any other family. That includes the Kardashian-West family.
Who cares what you think about them.
Who cares what you think you know about them.
Because we don’t know them.
But we do know she could have died having another child.
We know she tried everything she could to avoid surrogacy.
And we certainly know it takes a very strong women to give another women the trust of loving + caring for her child for nine months.
Thanks for trusting our small community in expanding your family.
I can only hope we do not let the Kardashian-West family down.
Last year we were with my boyfriend’s family and just tried to distract my son during Father’s Day activities. We did not celebrate my boyfriend because he wasn’t his father. His biological father’s abandonment was still new but luckily there were so many new friends around that he didn’t seem to notice too much. I still appreciated his special role but he wasn’t “dad” and I did not want to force that on my boyfriend or my son. He had only lived in NC with us for 4 days when Father’s Day arrived. So, we just ignored the day and distracted him as much as possible while we surrounded him with love.
I shared this post last Father’s Day on my personal Instagram. I didn’t share it on the blog at the time because I not only did not have answers to questions but I didn’t know truly what path we were on. I did not want to open a can of worms on the blog or Charlotte Housewives social pages but I had to share my feelings, so I shared it with friends.
This year is a 360. A few months into my boyfriend living here, my niece gave him the nickname
“Papa AJ” and soon after, it was just shortened to Papa. Although he called him Papa and he said he was “like a step dad” I wasn’t sure how Father’s Day would work this year. I figured I Would just ask him at some point if he wanted to give a card.
Last Thursday I was taking Hayden to his last day of school. He was so excited for the day to be over so he was talking my ear off. He instantly changed the subject to Father’s Day. He informed me what the card said which was “I love my daddy because my daddy loves me.” He called his biological father that so I’m trying to change the subject. I start talking about how we’ll be headed to the beach on Father’s Day and maybe we could make a card for Papa. He informed me the card was for Papa and my heart just sank as I wiped tears from my face.
So right then it was decided. We were celebrating Father’s Day. We went to the store a few days later to find the perfect card and hunted everywhere for the “Papa” cards – just for him. Then we stumbled finding the perfect gift.
For the last three years, I have appreciated the special bond these two have had but the last year has been amazing to see how it has evolved. He took the kiddos – my son and two older nieces – on a movie date yesterday morning. He takes him to go Pokémon hunting. He jumps in the pool to swim with him even when the water is 78* and no adults want to jump in. He handles dinner, homework, bath and bedtime without a complaint if I have too much work to do or I am out for an event.
This Father’s day we’re celebrating three dads as we head to the beach. My father, my brother-in-law and now my boyfriend.
Thanks Dads for loving these children and a special thank you to the men who love children that weren’t theirs from birth, but are theirs now.
In 47 Meters Down, Lisa (Mandy Moore) is ready for adventure while on vacation in Mexico after a devastating break-up,. Even still, she needs a little extra persuasion when her daring sister Kate (Claire Holt) suggests they go shark diving with some locals. Once underwater in a protective cage, Lisa and Kate catch a once in a lifetime, face-to-face look at majestic Great Whites.
But when their worst fears are realized and the cage breaks away from their boat, they find themselves plummeting to the bottom of the seabed, too deep to radio for help without making themselves vulnerable to the savage sharks, their oxygen supplies rapidly dwindling. 47 METERS DOWN is a terrifying tale of survival set in the domain of the ocean’s fiercest creatures.
So it makes me want to question if swimming with the sharks is for me!
advanced screening of “47 METERS DOWN."
When? Tuesday, June 13th at 7:30pm
Where? Regal Phillips Place.
(6911 Phillips Pl Ct, Charlotte, NC 28210)
How? You must download a screening
pass to attend. Download instructions are
below – one pass is good for you and a guest:
To Download An Admit-Two Screening Pass Go To: http://www.gofobo.com/47MDCharlotteHousewives
*Please note: passes do NOT guarantee seats at the screening.
The theater is over-booked to ensure capacity and seating is filled on a first-come,
first-serve basis. Guests are encouraged to arrive early.
Ticket-holder and guest must enter the auditorium together.
* I recommend arriving around 6:00-6:15
47 METERS DOWN (Entertainment Studios Motion Pictures)
Release Date: Friday, June 16, 2017 (Wide)
Rating: PG-13, for sequences of intense peril, bloody images, and brief strong language
Running Time: 89 Minutes
Directed by: Johannes Roberts
Written by: Johannes Roberts and Ernest Riera
Cast: Mandy Moore, Claire Holt, Matthew Modine
Trailer & Official Site: http://47metersdownmovie.com/
Social: @47MetersDown (Facebook & Instagram) / @47MDown (Twitter)
Publicity Materials: www.EPK.TV
Charlotte Housewives has put together a guide of some of the unique, different and must go to camps for your kiddos this summer.
Don't let the kids sit at home, send them out to learn about science, new sports, dance or find their artistic bone!
Charlotte Day Camp
We spend every day at camp creating three outcomes for each camper: Growth, Learning, and Fun. Each week offers multiple weekly themes for campers to choose from. All activities are designed not only to be fun, but also for campers to practice skills that predict for success in school and life.
Hornets Day Camp
CAMP FEATURES (general outline, subject to vary by camp)
- 4-Days, 9 a.m-4 p.m., ages 7-14, co-ed
- Skills Stations, Breakdown Drills, and Instructional Lectures
- Competitive Games
- Qualified Coaches
- Guest Speakers
- Camp Swag Bag
Miller STreet Dance Co.
Ages 9-12 “Totally You” Pre-Teen Camp is four days of intensive dance training, exploring various styles of dance from Lyrical and Jazz to Acrobatics and HipHop, and more! It doesn’t stop with dance training. We will spend a portion of the day learning the basics of etiquette that every young lady needs to know!
Baxter Village Location in Fort Mill, SC - 803-396-5299
Providence Road Location in Charlotte, NC - 704-889-8637
Dish It Out Pottery
2017 Summer Camp Dates:
At Dish It Out we offer summer art camps for children ages 7 and up. We introduce children to a variety of forms of art, such as pottery painting, canvas painting, mosaics and more. We work on multiple art projects each day and give children a hands-on approach to different forms of art. Summer Art Camp is all about self-expression, creativity and fun!
COST FOR CAMP (PER WEEK) $199.00.
Here are the vendors you met at our GNO event. I hope you enjoy.
If you missed it, we hope to see you at our next GNO!!
Here are the vendors you met at our GNO event. I hope you enjoy.