No. Just No.
Very, very few cases of surrogacy are due to career or body issues. VERY FEW. I’ve only heard personally of three surrogates carrying due to those reasons. But guess what, it's still their choice to do so.
But that certainly isn’t the case here. The fact that it has been brought up is disgusting. She publicly went through two horrific pregnancies and surgeries after both to try and conceive again. She has a HOLE in her UTERUS. She’s had blood transfusions. She had her placenta scrapped from her uterus because it wouldn’t release. Her doctor told her that she had a major chance of dying while trying again.
Yall. That’s intense.
I wouldn’t want to die trying to have a child.
Surrogacy is normally the last chance effort for families. It isn’t a spur of the moment decision. These parents have gone through testing, meetings, crying nights and financial discussions.
Yes. Financial discussions.
Surrogacy costs on average 90-130k. Costs can vary based on many factors. The surrogate may not have surrogacy friendly insurance, therefore either a new coverage will need to be obtained during open enrollment and paid for by the intended parents or the intended parents will pay cash for all services.
Also, the first transfer of the embryo may fail. And maybe the second. And maybe the third. They may need to make new embryos. Each failed transfer and each new egg retrieval + fertilization costs money. There is only a 60% chance on average that an IVF procedure will result in pregnancy whether you transfer one or two embryos. Transferring two only increase the result of multiples – which is risky.
Even as a celebrity, no one wants to fork out that cash to have a child. But they do it. People take out second and third mortgages, max credit cards and borrow. In most states, surrogacy IVF treatments are not covered in the insurance. Actually, IVF treatments aren’t covered at all in most states.
Don’t tell someone they need to adopt.
Would you tell your newly married heterosexual couple friends that they should adopt instead of conceiving the “natural” way? Nope. You would never tell them what to do in their bedroom or how to procreate their family. So don’t tell the infertile.
It is not the burden of the infertile to carry the weight of the orphaned on their back.
Oh and adoption isn’t cheap either.
Adoptions are seriously expensive as well and it isn’t guaranteed you’ll have a child. Surrogacy isn’t either and there are natural risks that can happen but for the most part, once you hit the viability stage of pregnancy, it is very likely you’ll have a child in your home.
You definitely will know you’ll leave a hospital with a child in your arms unlike in adoptions where the birth mom has 48 hours to decide post birth.
We’re not Lifetime Movies
Bless it. I love Lifetime for some juicy crazy drama but too many think their dramas are the real deal. There’s never a good surrogacy story or outcome on television or in movies.
That also includes the news. Some surrogates do go off their rocker but it boils down to missed steps each and every time. Please don't judge surrogates on a few bad apples and television drama.
Surrogacy is in the Relationship
Each relationship between surrogate and IPs are different. Some become lifelong friendships and others turn out to be more professional. Both are okay. However before anyone stabs a needle in their stomach or hip, you go through a lot of testing. You do medical testing. You go through multiple psychological tests and therapy meetings.
You have a contract that is legally binding. You list out each situation that may occur and how it is handled. They contracts are – on average – 25-50 pages in length. I was uncompensated and ours was still 29 pages long and I have seen contracts at upwards of 89 pages. The more details involved the better. You’ll both have representation to look out for your best interests so there shouldn’t be questions or issues when a situation comes up.
The Law isn’t always on our side.
Very few states are very surrogacy friendly, California being one of them. Here in North and South Carolina, we do not have laws for or against surrogacy. That essentially means if something were to come up and when parents apply for a Pre-Birth Order, it is 100% up to the judge.
Some states have laws preventing surrogacy for certain reasons. Louisiana only allows surrogacy for heterosexual couples. New York does not allow for a surrogate to be compensated and even if they are not compensated they are notorious for making the parents adopt their biological child. Michigan do not recognize contracts and a surrogate fled there to avoid losing custody of the child.
Surrogacy is a beautiful thing. I wish others really understood what surrogates actually do. I have been called many names from a cash cow (I wasn’t even compensated) to being told I was a horrible ‘mother’ for abandoning my child - that isn't even biologically mine.
Intended Parents through surrogacy deserve the right to have their children just like any other family. That includes the Kardashian-West family.
Who cares what you think about them.
Who cares what you think you know about them.
Because we don’t know them.
But we do know she could have died having another child.
We know she tried everything she could to avoid surrogacy.
And we certainly know it takes a very strong women to give another women the trust of loving + caring for her child for nine months.
Thanks for trusting our small community in expanding your family.
I can only hope we do not let the Kardashian-West family down.
I broke my silence earlier this week about the hell we’ve been through the last 18 months. My son was abandoned by his father and during all the legal battles, I couldn’t speak much about the situation. I plan to go into more detail but right now, I just want to celebrate Father’s Day.
Last year we were with my boyfriend’s family and just tried to distract my son during Father’s Day activities. We did not celebrate my boyfriend because he wasn’t his father. His biological father’s abandonment was still new but luckily there were so many new friends around that he didn’t seem to notice too much. I still appreciated his special role but he wasn’t “dad” and I did not want to force that on my boyfriend or my son. He had only lived in NC with us for 4 days when Father’s Day arrived. So, we just ignored the day and distracted him as much as possible while we surrounded him with love.
So right then it was decided. We were celebrating Father’s Day. We went to the store a few days later to find the perfect card and hunted everywhere for the “Papa” cards – just for him. Then we stumbled finding the perfect gift.
For the last three years, I have appreciated the special bond these two have had but the last year has been amazing to see how it has evolved. He took the kiddos – my son and two older nieces – on a movie date yesterday morning. He takes him to go Pokémon hunting. He jumps in the pool to swim with him even when the water is 78* and no adults want to jump in. He handles dinner, homework, bath and bedtime without a complaint if I have too much work to do or I am out for an event.
This Father’s day we’re celebrating three dads as we head to the beach. My father, my brother-in-law and now my boyfriend.
Thanks Dads for loving these children and a special thank you to the men who love children that weren’t theirs from birth, but are theirs now.
Would you ever swim with sharks? One of my BIGGEST bucket list items is to one day swim with the sharks - but definitely in a protective cage!
In 47 Meters Down, Lisa (Mandy Moore) is ready for adventure while on vacation in Mexico after a devastating break-up,. Even still, she needs a little extra persuasion when her daring sister Kate (Claire Holt) suggests they go shark diving with some locals. Once underwater in a protective cage, Lisa and Kate catch a once in a lifetime, face-to-face look at majestic Great Whites.
But when their worst fears are realized and the cage breaks away from their boat, they find themselves plummeting to the bottom of the seabed, too deep to radio for help without making themselves vulnerable to the savage sharks, their oxygen supplies rapidly dwindling. 47 METERS DOWN is a terrifying tale of survival set in the domain of the ocean’s fiercest creatures.
So it makes me want to question if swimming with the sharks is for me!
Entertainment Studios Motion Pictures is hosting a special
advanced screening of “47 METERS DOWN."
When? Tuesday, June 13th at 7:30pm
Where? Regal Phillips Place.
(6911 Phillips Pl Ct, Charlotte, NC 28210)
How? You must download a screening
pass to attend. Download instructions are
below – one pass is good for you and a guest:
To Download An Admit-Two Screening Pass Go To: http://www.gofobo.com/47MDCharlotteHousewives
*Please note: passes do NOT guarantee seats at the screening.
The theater is over-booked to ensure capacity and seating is filled on a first-come,
first-serve basis. Guests are encouraged to arrive early.
Ticket-holder and guest must enter the auditorium together.
* I recommend arriving around 6:00-6:15
If you want the nerdy deets - Check below!
47 METERS DOWN (Entertainment Studios Motion Pictures)
Release Date: Friday, June 16, 2017 (Wide)
Rating: PG-13, for sequences of intense peril, bloody images, and brief strong language
Running Time: 89 Minutes
Directed by: Johannes Roberts
Written by: Johannes Roberts and Ernest Riera
Cast: Mandy Moore, Claire Holt, Matthew Modine
Trailer & Official Site: http://47metersdownmovie.com/
Social: @47MetersDown (Facebook & Instagram) / @47MDown (Twitter)
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