A break is such an easy thing to say you're going to do when you're overwhelmed but most of the time we do not actually take one.
As women, it seems we always have 328-thousand things on our plates. I cannot stop being a mom. I cannot stop working my job. I cannot neglect the cat or dog. I cannot stop being a girlfriend - well, guess I can but I don't want to!
So when I decided 3-4 weeks ago that I needed a break, I meant it. I was overwhelmed with everything going on in my life and all the upcoming changes.
In January, we were with family when they were chatting about moving. I jokingly said "Let's look for a home!" and during that hunt I really started to think.
"Our home value is really up right now since I bought this house."
"When construction starts next year, our home value will probably decrease for a while."
"We cannot live in this house for more than 2 more years."
"HOLY CRAP WE HAVE GOT TO MOVE SOON."
Once I laid down all the same details with my boyfriend, he felt the same, so then we started hunting for a new home. We live in Mooresville and love the MGSD so finding a home can be hard. We honestly did not want an HOA but see benefits from the neighborhoods so our son can find other kids to play with. We want a certain number of rooms and in a certain price point that has made it so hard. If we would raise our price point by 20-30k, then we would have 30 more homes to choose from, but we're trying to stick to the budget we want and not the budget the bank has allowed.
During this time I also started a new job. I've debated getting back into the corporate world for a while and finally a position landed in my lap. I've been wanted to get my foot in the door at Lowe's corporate office for years but it is pretty hard. You have to know someone - and even though I know plenty, it's still hard. So our family has been transitioning to me working full time and not always being in the mood to cook a meal or stay up late to watch a movie.
So I allowed myself to take a break. Every day I felt a tinge of guilt that I basically checked out but it was so refreshing. It was what I needed. I think everyone should take a break from things when life gets overwhelming.
Taking a break from friends -OR- finding a reason to see them when times are hard.
Taking a break from the gym -OR- going back to let the stress sweat away.
Taking a break from the PTO -OR- joining because you need "mommy" socializing.
Taking a break from going out -OR- making a point to try new places in CLT.
Whatever it is and however you choose to take a break, know it's okay. Find time for yourself whether that means staying in or forcing yourself to try new things. We all deserve a little grace when we need a little self love and TLC.