I broke my silence earlier this week about the hell we’ve been through the last 18 months. My son was abandoned by his father and during all the legal battles, I couldn’t speak much about the situation. I plan to go into more detail but right now, I just want to celebrate Father’s Day.
Last year we were with my boyfriend’s family and just tried to distract my son during Father’s Day activities. We did not celebrate my boyfriend because he wasn’t his father. His biological father’s abandonment was still new but luckily there were so many new friends around that he didn’t seem to notice too much. I still appreciated his special role but he wasn’t “dad” and I did not want to force that on my boyfriend or my son. He had only lived in NC with us for 4 days when Father’s Day arrived. So, we just ignored the day and distracted him as much as possible while we surrounded him with love.
So right then it was decided. We were celebrating Father’s Day. We went to the store a few days later to find the perfect card and hunted everywhere for the “Papa” cards – just for him. Then we stumbled finding the perfect gift.
For the last three years, I have appreciated the special bond these two have had but the last year has been amazing to see how it has evolved. He took the kiddos – my son and two older nieces – on a movie date yesterday morning. He takes him to go Pokémon hunting. He jumps in the pool to swim with him even when the water is 78* and no adults want to jump in. He handles dinner, homework, bath and bedtime without a complaint if I have too much work to do or I am out for an event.
This Father’s day we’re celebrating three dads as we head to the beach. My father, my brother-in-law and now my boyfriend.
Thanks Dads for loving these children and a special thank you to the men who love children that weren’t theirs from birth, but are theirs now.