After being an in and out gym-goer, I've finally decided to get my tail back into gear... After all, I have a wedding dress to fit into in less than 3 months!
I love seeing improvement after I've been hitting it hard for a few weeks, but my head always seems to outweigh my what my eyes see. So, first and foremost, if you've made it to the gym congratulations.. Plenty of people don't get there and usually it's negative thoughts that hold them back. Once you've arrived though, similar pesky inner ramblings may pipe up and threaten to erase your confidence, especially with the pressures of today's society. Here's a list of the "Negative Nancy" thoughts I've had in the past and hopefully these tips on how to fix them can help you, too :)
I look stupid/unattractive
You may be out of shape, but no one's laughing at you. If they are, they are evil and we hope they drop a dumbbell on their toe. But seriously, they are too worried about taking care of their own imperfections to pay attention to yours. Leave the concerns about whether or not your booty looks big in your gym pants or if your bat wings wobble at home. The fact that you are working out is commendable, and you don't look silly or fat; you look smart. Recognize that you're a proactive individual rather than fretting about what others think of you.
I don't know where to start
You might be put off by all of the experienced gym rats who know what they're doing, but don't worry, everyone has to start somewhere. Ask a trainer for advice. Or learn about the best exercise routines for beginners online before going to the gym so you have an idea about what to do when you arrive (Pinterest is a gym beginner's heaven). You'll be more confident after a few sessions and feel less out of place.
It's not working
Patience grasshopper. You won't see positive results overnight and may wonder whether your hard work's paying off. Nonetheless, you will notice slight differences in your health fairly quickly. Perhaps you won't huff and puff as much as you used to when climbing the stairs, or you'll be able to take long walks without experiencing aches and pains. Even if physical changes don't show yet, be assured they ARE taking place.
I'm not good enough
Hush yo' mouth! So what if push-ups aren't a push-over and lunges aren't your forte? If you aren't sure you are doing the exercises correctly, or don't know how to use gym equipment, ask a fellow gym member for help or a staff-member for a demonstration. At the same time, expect your expertise to grow gradually and avoid comparing yourself to other gym goers. People are at different levels of fitness and experience, so comparisons are a waste of time. If you must compete, compete with yourself and you'll improve.
I'll never reach my fitness goal
Everyone has off days when they imagine they won't meet their fitness goal. If your goal seems far away, motivate yourself by creating small, doable steps; mini-milestones will give you the confidence to continue.
You might experience negative thoughts at the gym, but you're not alone. Many other gym goers have similar banter in their brains. Give yourself a pat on the back for even being there, and remember that you got up and tried and that's a huge step.
I'm a soon-to-be wife,