They say making friends is easy. Well, when you’re an adult it is supposed to be right? Like for me and many other women out there its just as hard then when you were a kid. Are you that mom looking to find a person to vibe with, even if it is at the bus stop or the park? Well, I had that problem when I transitioned from “work mom” to “stay at home mom” a few years back. I never thought the role of being a mother would be lonely one after a move to a new state, but this changed my whole way of thinking.
I never had an issue ever making friends as a kid. People who knew me growing up always knew I had this “gift for gab” or like one teacher said to me, “You are a social butterfly”. But as I got older making friends and socializing is just as important as when you are a child. The friends you make as an adult go way beyond and become more like an “established relationship”.
I found myself in this funk of learning to make new friends all over again. I mean I have friends but in a new area no. Moving to a new place, not knowing anyone to at least hear what frustrations you have other than your spouse can be frustrating. I just had to let myself go and find where one could meet someone without looking like a weirdo or stalker. I just moved to a new apartment complex a few summers ago, I decided to take my kids to the pool. From there life began to change and I started to meet new people. On my first visit, I met two women, the icebreaker was my son Quincy, who like her boys was running and jumping, so talking became easy. The second encounter was meeting two women who lived on my side of the complex both who had girls around the same age as my children, but again it was my son who helped me to break the ice. My son Q , well let’s say he was marking his territory he decided to pick one of the “little girls”. Instead of playing with her and the rest of the kids choose to tease her and it took off from there. As the school year started I again saw one of the mothers who were in the second encounter at the pool. Her daughter and mine were attending the same school so we would see each other daily. This began the start of our friendship. After many conversations, food exchanges, pickups, and play dates we have established a connection that feels more like forever friends than the short time we had.
I was always the person who attracted people. My guess is I have that face that says hello, nice to meet you. When I moved, I felt that changed because no one approached me with a friendly vibe and I felt like the new girl in class. Before meeting these groups of women, I tried everything when I moved. I have joined the PTA, looked up mom groups, even broke the ice and spoke about the obvious like the weather. At times I felt like the girl trying to fit in and I felt like the stalker looking to fit in the “popular group”. What I felt is what many moms feel each and every day, hey just ask some of them.
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Hello Hampton Roads! We had our ladies night out on Tuesday, October 10th at BJ' s Restaurant and Brewhouse in Newport News, and I know a lot of you wanted to come, but for whatever reason (Work delays, the weather, School events, the awful traffic, or you just couldn’t find a sitter) a lot of you could not make it.
I wanted to share the links to our fabulous vendors, that way you can still shop from them if you're looking for last minute gifts for any occasion or more information on them. Take advantage of the many specials they are offering.
So, here's the Locals We Love this month!
Get your Lips looking great with Lipsense! Get touch with Laura
Get the latest LulaRoe Fashions with Jennifer
Get help with your home repair needs at no cost to you with JES
Learn more about my favorite place to get some sweets and bundlets on the Peninsula, Nothing Bundt Cakes of Newport News.
Origami Owl Jewelry by Allison Facebook
Get relaxed with Pure Romance- Contact Patty
Get your skin perfect with Rodan and Fields- Contact Tina
Want to be in our next Locals we Love Edition?
Let us put a spotlight on your business appear at our events ,on our blog and social media channels. Email Bernadette at Housewives In the City today at Bernadette@housewivesinthecity.com for more details.
Our October event was a special event on October 10th at BJ's Restaurant & Brewhouse in Newport News. All who attended had so much fun meeting our lovely vendors who were very informative on their brands and enticed our guest with amazing giveaways.
The staff was also very accommodating and friendly to help us throw a fabulous ladies night out! For more information about our vendors, please see our Locals We Love !
I was so happy to able to meet and speak to everyone , but I am looking forward to our anniversary event at the Melting Pot in Newport News on November 13th .
Thank you so much for those who come out to show support to Hampton Roads Housewives In the City. To see more great photos click here!
For our October Ladies Night out we are featuring PAWS, Poquoson Animal Welfare Sanctuary, Inc, as our featured charity.
Poquoson Animal Welfare Sanctuary, Inc. is dedicated to the rescue and placement of abandoned, abused, and neglected cats. Our vision for these animals is a safe place that will provide them with food, shelter, medical care, rehabilitation, adoption opportunities, and most importantly, love.
Spay/neuter is a priority to control the overpopulation of these animals in our community.
We want to help support P.A.W.S! Poquoson Animal Welfare Sanctuary, Inc. is a non-profit organization 501(c)(3) that relies on public support in the form of volunteers and donations.
I am so happy to be partnering with such a great local charity. Be sure to speak with one of the volunteers of PAWS at BJ'S Restaurant & Brewhouse in Newport News on October 10, 2017 to learn more how you can be involved with this amazing group.
Stay connected on their website and learn more how you can get more involved with this amazing charity that looks to help and support the local fur babies in Hampton Roads!
Our September event was a special event on September 27th at Oozlefinch Brewery in Fort Monroe. All who attended had so much fun meeting our lovely vendors who were very informative on their brands and enticed our guest with amazing giveaways. It was our pleasure to host one of the Peninsula's Favorite Food Trucks, Creekside Catering! They had some great specials, especially their famous crab cakes!
The staff was also very accommodating and friendly to help us throw a fabulous ladies night out! For more information about our vendors and Event Sponsor please see our Locals We Love !
I was so happy to able to meet and speak to everyone , but I am looking forward to our next event at BJ's Brewhouse and Restaurant in Newport News on October 10th .
I love how we connected with Ally Brown and Colson Duggins from Willow House Media, for their outstanding talent in photography. Partners of their own special team, Ally and Colson come together to give you their best to capture your special memories. I am so happy we connected with them and look forward to working with them again soon!
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Thank you so much for giving us a great way to remember this Ladies Night Out.
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Hey everyone, my name is Bernadette and I am a Lifestyle Blogger and Influencer based out of Yorktown, Virginia. I am a New York native who was recently transplanted from Long Island to Virginia a few years ago ready to explore fun things in and around Hampton Roads. I am a lover of food, movies and having a good time! You will always find me on social media looking for the next best thing to do!