When you learn after a few years you were the other woman. Never in a million years did I ever think I would be the other woman in any man’s life. But thanks to Facebook you learn things that you never think you would. For two and half years I thought I was the only lady in one guy’s life. But oh, how wrong was I. But now being older and wiser I look back and see all the red flags that I didn’t see then. Like I said earlier thanks to Facebook I discover that I wasn’t the only one. Facebook has this great thing where people who are in your contacts also show up as people you know. Being me I love to scroll through and see if there are people I may know. Well there he was and after all those years he told me he didn’t have a facebook well there he was on and he had been on facebook for years. There was red flag number one. Im thinking to myself how was I so dumb to not see this lie. So since he is there and well all women like to be nosey in some way or anthoher I just had to look and see what he had been up too. Then that is when the truth was then right there in my face and all those things I didn’t feel should have been red flags filled my head and all I wanted to do was cry. Being as that the main guy in my life was about to be home I held back the tears that wanted to flow down my face. How was I the other woman for so long and never saw it right in front of my face. Then while holding the tears back all the toughts were becoming never ending. All the questions that should have been ask there were now being answer.
Why was it so hard to make plans with him for more than one night?
He had a girlfriend/ wife to go home to
Why did he always tell the person he was on the phone with in a off to the coner conversation that he was working late or was out of town with me?
It was the lie he told so he could be with me
Why were the texts he sent me always so short and not personal?
Some was probolly close by and he didn’t want it to be made that he had another person in his life.
Why did he make promises and not keep them?
His way of making me want to stay.
By then the tears are just flowing down my face and the most amazing guy walks in the door and I forget that I was ever someones second choice and I am finally number one in someone very specials life to me.
So don’t be like me and be someone’s second choice.
It is summer time and its almost over well at least the stores are preparing for back to school already. If your kids are like my niece and nephew, they are not ready to go back just yet. They still want to have the freedom and fun without the school day hustle. Last week I had the enjoyment of keeping them and enjoy the fun of the pool and then after pool time park time and after the park the fun of bubble making. So, speaking of bubbles I taught my niece and nephew a few tricks when it came to making bubbles and cool bubble toys. So, I’m going to share the fun of the bubble making toys so keep reading.
If you have empty drink bottles and socks that are missing mates you are going to love this cool trick.
Need bubble without paying the price for them use dish soap and water mix together I always do 1/2 soap and 3/4 water
I hope this fun trick brings some joy to the kid(s) in your life. I know the ones in my life loved it.
Get to know the Lady behind the Jacksonville Housewives.
I decided to share some fun random facts just to let you get to know me a little better.
Who am I- I’m Amanda I’m a North Carolina girl born here but just recently moved from west coast to east coast 2 years ago. I grew up outside of Charlotte but always been a city girl at heart. I moved to the east coast and originally lived in Greenville then fell in love with a boy who has my heart. Who just happens to be a local. That is a hard thing to find here in JVille. I love getting to know things about all the wonderful ladies I meet so get to know me a little better.
So, I found some fun random questions that seemed like fun to ask
A phase that describes your relationship- We are defiantly the true meaning of opposites attract he is the “good ole country boy” he enjoys the outdoors and outdoor activities that include hunting and fishing. I on the other hand very much a city girl and it shines through in just about everything I do. I don’t partake in the outdoor activities that he enjoys.
What’s your favorite piece of clothing you own? I love my favorite little black dress. I personal enjoy all the black pieces that I own as they are fun to dress up or down and go with everything.
Something people always make fun of you for? The fact that I am always super early for everything. I always show up to work early and will never late.
Favorite hobby? I can’t say I have just one as I love anything DIY, cooking or baking. If I could live in my kitchen I would.
My Favorite comfort food? Mac and Cheese. Even though mine will never be as good as grandma’s it is a pretty close second. (fun fact about me a mac and cheese I cannot make it out of a box without burning it but can make it from scratch with no problems)
Cool fact- My eyes are two different colors they are green and brown. (wanna see just ask at an event)
Thing you are most afraid of? Clowns I was scared as a child from a friend of my dad’s he chased me in a scary clown mask and I ended up locking myself in the trunk of my dad’s card.
Strangest thing about you? I won’t eat hotdogs I lost my first tooth in one and swallowed it and haven’t ate one since then.
What is the housewives in the city? It is a local social media and blog that host monthly girl’s night out networking event. The events help build up the community by connecting women and local business to grow the community.
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To the girl who is all grown up and still daddy’s little girl. I envy you in every sense there is. Growing up I was daddy’s little princess. I grew up doing everything he did. I played in the garage even went to work with you when you had to go in on Saturday’s. I wanted to spend every chance I could with you. Just to make sure I always had that spot of daddy’s little girl. I get it we grow up and life changes happen. But it was more like poof that relationship and bond was gone within the blink of an eye. I get envious when I see my friends on Facebook post with pictures of them spending time with their fathers thinking at one point in my life I thought I would be that girl too. Like I said before that relationship that I had with my dad was gone in the blink of an eye. Yeah I’m sure that it could come back, but it wouldn’t be the same bond, maybe it could but I feel now that I’m older the bond would feel forced and not natural. Growing up before my parents got a divorce it was clear how the bonds between parent and child were. I was daddy’s little girl and my brother was a mommy’s boy. Growing up they swore that they loved us both equally but I knew in my heart and in my head that my father loved me in a different way than my brother and my mom had that connection with my brother. I never felt the bond with my mom like I did with my dad. I honestly think that’s why I wasn’t upset when my mom left my dad for the last time and took my brother with her and left me with my dad. I was 14 at the time and was already in that awkward stage in my life that was the last issue I wanted to keep me up at night. But then we fast forward a few years I’m having a casual conversation with my dad and he finally feels he is ready to date. I’m cool with that I’m dating a guy who I was sure was going to be the man I married one day. (oh was I wrong). But this conversation I am having with my dad I made him promise to me that no matter who he dated or remarried if that ever happened that I would always hold that number one lady spot in his life and that she wouldn’t try to be my mom. I was almost 18 and about to graduate. My grandma was the only mom figure I needed. He met a lady who he fell head over heels for. For a while I had no problem with her. We had that friendship that is ok to have with someone who could soon be a part of your family. But then it happens. That moment that blink of an eye that relationship that everything was gone. I was 18 I had graduate and thought I was in love. I did something and my dad caught me in the act. He stuck me in a car with her and she played mom. Then I was stuck for a week living with her and him at her house being treated like a prisoner. Then Sunday came and as we are sitting in the church parking lot my dad as me a question that angered me more that my mom walking out on me. I was hurt. I called my grandparents who are his parents and made them force me to come stay with them. I couldn’t bare to look at him because I was so hurt. Years keep passing and I no longer have that desire that I once had to rebuild our relationship. I just wanted to have that place in his life and not have to fight or be the only one putting in the effort to rebuild. That’s why I envy the girls who don’t have to work for it. It’s been there since day one and no matter the life changes it still there. No matter how grown up they get that bond is still there.
IF YOUR LIKE ME JACKSONVILLE IS WHERE YOU ARE CALLING HOME. I GUESS NOW I CAN SAY THAT I AM NO LONGER JUST A PART OF THE COME FOR A FEW YEARS AND LEAVE CROWD. AT ONE POINT I MAY HAVE FELT THAT WAY. BUT AFTER BUYING A HOUSE I FEEL I CAN NOW SAY I AM A LOCAL. I HAD TO LEARN MY WAY AROUND AND FIND THE PLACES THAT FOR ME QUICKLY BECAME MY FAVORITE.
SO HERE IS MY TOP FIVE FAVORITE PLACES IN JACKSONVILLE AND CLOSE BY:
WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING A LITTLE PAPMER SESSION WITHOUT FEELING LIKE YOU ARE GOING TO WALK OUT WITH MESSED UP EYE BROWS OR A TERRIBLE NAIL JOB.
ANN’S SPA AND NAILS LOCATED 521 YOPP RD SUITE #206
I HAVE NEVER WALKED OUT UNHAPPY THEY MAKE SURE TO TAKE CARE OF YOU.
WHEN IT COMES TO BRING FAMILY IN AND YOU JUST MIGHT NOT HAVE ENOUGH ROOM FOR THEM TO STAY
THE CANDLEWOOD SUITES LOCATED AT 119 PENNY LANE JACKSONVILLE
THEY WILL MAKE SURE YOU ARE WELL TAKEN CARE OF AND LIKE YOU ARE AT HOME EVEN IF IT IS YOUR HOME AWAY FROM HOME FOR A FEW DAYS OF WEEKS
WHEN IT COMES TO LOOKING FOR SOMETHING TO DO AROUND HOLIDAYS FROM HALLOWEEN TO CHRISTMAS TO JUST LOOKING FOR SOME YUMMY FOOD MIKES FARM IS THE PLACE TO THEY HAVE A WONDERFUL PUMPKIN PATCH TO CHRISTMAS LIGHTS GALORE AND THE HAYRIDE TO SEE THE LIGHTS. THIS IS A MUST SEE PLACE TO EAT AND DO ALL THE FUN ATTACTIONS.
ITS JUST A SHORT DRIVE OUTSIDE OF JACKSONVILLE BUT IT WORTH THE DRIVE
LOCATED AT 1600 HAW BRANCH RD BEAULAVILLE NC
IF YOU ARE LOOKING FOR SOME YUMMY MEXICAN FOOD THIS IS ONE OF MY ALL TIME FAVORITES. WE MAKE GOING HERE A WEEKLY OUTING. JUST RIGHT OUTSIDE OF JACKSONVILLE IN RICHLANDS HABANEROS MEXICAN RESTAURANT BAR AND GRILL. IS THE PLACE TO BE.
LOCATED AT 172 KINSTON HWY. RICHLANDS
LOOKING FOR SOMETHING FUN ON A RAINING DAY JUST HEAD A LITTLE OUTSIDE OF JACKSONVILLE TO CAPE CARTERET TO MAC DADDYS FOR A FUN FILLED DAY OF BOWLING AND ACARDE GAMES. IF THE WEATHER IS NICE YOU CAN ENJOY MINI-GOLF, GO-CARTS AND BUMPER BOATS. IT A DAY FILLED WITH LOTS OF FUN AND YOU DON’T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT NOT HAVING FOOD BECAUSE THEIR FOOD IS AMAZING
LOCATED IN THE CORATAN NATIONAL FOREST – 130 GOLFIN DOLPHIN DR CAPE CARTERET
AND JUST FOR ONE EXTRA ADD IN BECAUSE THIS ONE CROSSED MY MIND AS I WAS FINISHING THIS POST.
THIGS BB THIS IS A MUST GO FOR BREAKFAST LUNCH OR DINNER THE AMOUNT OF FOOD THEY GIVE YOU IS ENOUGH FOR TWO MEALS BUT IT IS OH SO YUMMY.
LOCATED AT 1722 CATHERINE LAKE RD JACKSONVILLE
If you follow the Jacksonville Housewives on any Social Media at all. You will have send my big baby, AKA my dog. Doc. He thinks he is a lap dog and is very far from it. He is all of 150 pounds and thinks he is like 10. Most people think that he is just a big dog that they should be afraid of, however that’s not the case he wouldn’t hurt a fly. Well maybe a bumble bee. JK he thinks it’s fun to chase them and try to catch them with his mouth. You can tell him no a million times and he is still going to try and get them. Well Doc not only enjoys bumble bees, playing fetch, empty drink bottle (that he hides after getting them out of the recycling bin). He is also scared of rain and water. Yes, you read that right water. He hates bath time. Well lucky for me I found an amazing dog groomer who can take care of my big baby and get him clean. And trim his nails as they grow way to fast. He loves going to the Animal House. The Animal house is an Animal Groomer that services both Dogs and Cats as well as offering boarding services and the most adorable thing. The Bark Bus. Doc gets so happy when I grab his Camo dog leash off the hook he knows that where we are going and he knows that means a car ride and to see his favorite grooming ladies. After getting all clean and groomed they give him a cute bandana and he thinks he is just the coolest dog on the plant. My favorite part is even if I decide last minute to take him that usually always find out a way to get him in.
If you are looking for an affordable groomer in the Jacksonville Area be Sure to check out the Animal House. They are sure to take care of you and you fur-baby or babies
Last week was a rough week and it made me think why not share my favorite “me-time” faves.
Social media junkie
Tea is my addiction
I play with shears for the shear fun of it
Can't wait to mingle with all you lovely ladies