And now I am engaged!
So there I was, happily single for a few years. I dated off and on when the mood struck me but I seriously enjoyed my freedom. I have close friends that are really awesome, so I rarely had that “I’m lonely” feeling. Like everyone, I did have moments of weakness in the evenings after work that were mostly placated by hours of Netflix.
On a crisp, chilly Tuesday evening, my friend and I went to Buffalo Wild Wings. Tuesday was wing day, so we had to go.
That’s when it happened.
I noticed him right away all the way on the other side of the restaurant. He was definitely a manager. After this moment, my delicious wings were simply too cold and I was forced to ask our server to send the manager over to complain. To be fair the wings were fantastic but I couldn’t think of a better excuse to get this guy to come to my table.
As he was walking towards my table a horde of butterflies were unleashed in my stomach. I hadn’t felt this giddy in years! The first feature I noticed as he came to my table were his piercing blue eyes. Blue diamonds that went straight into my heart. I was lovestruck, immediately. When he arrived, he gave me a big smile that made me melt. As he apologized and asked how he could fix the “cold wings”, I sheepishly said with a smile, “I don’t know what do you suggest?” He looked at me, grinned, and said, “how about dinner somewhere else?”. SUCCESS! I of course told him that Bonefish Grill is my favorite place. We exchanged numbers while my friend was giggling at me. As promised, he called me the next day to make plans. Nice.
On our first date at Bonefish grill, the man that appeared before me looked like the typical divorced guy with the white Reeboks and scary jeans. Yikes! He might not have been the best dresser but he was definitely the ultimate gentleman. He opened my door, held my chair and my coat, everything. I thought our conversation flowed easily. We were both cracking up, but I could tell that I was being reserved. It had been a long time since I went on a date with someone I actually liked. My mind was already racing with thoughts of suburbia and more pairs of white Reeboks. I was getting cold feet.
After dinner, he suggested going to see a band that he knew I liked. I was worried that he would stick out like a sore thumb in his old man getup. Boy was I wrong, he was great. He danced with me, made sure I knew that he thought I was the most beautiful woman in the room and didn’t leave my side the entire night. I was enthralled! He took me home in the wee hours of the morning, kissed me and said he’d call me tomorrow. He did.
Our relationship went 0-100 in 1 second. We were inseparable for the first couple of months. I was so happy. My friends were in disbelief and were even jealous, some not in a good way. Turns out I was the connector of all my friends and when I was off on awesome dates, my friends had nothing to do.
Here is where the bumpy road shows up.
Things took a turn about 3 months in. All of a sudden, my love seemed distant, less available and just... different. I didn’t recognize him. I didn’t understand what was going on. Whenever I asked him what was wrong he always said “I’m just busy”. Fortunately, I knew enough in guy speak to know what that meant and immediately went into defense mode and started keeping my distance. It was sad. Honestly. Those self-defense mechanisms are no good! I really liked, no, loved this guy. I didn’t want things to end! After enough prying he finally admitted that things were moving too fast for him in our relationship. He wasn’t comfortable with the speed. He had doubts about me, he thought I was too good to be true.
After hearing his confession, normal me would have been gone in a flash. This time, I decided to go against my screaming instincts and do something unthinkable: I decided to have a real, live conversation with him. Something I never do! So instead of putting up a wall, pushing him out, I listened to his fears. He told me how he had prayed so hard for someone to come into his life. For a long time, and then he met me. He couldn’t believe it had happened. He didn’t trust that fortune had brought us together. I asked him why he prayed if he wouldn’t believe the answers to his prayers when they appeared? Seemed like the most logical thing to ask at the time. He was quiet. Very quiet. I, too, was quiet and the conversation just… ended, awkwardly. I was left with that scary vulnerable feeling. I felt so exposed. I hate that!
I didn’t hear from him the rest of the night. I told my friends that our relationship was over. I was miserable. To cheer myself up, my friends and I decided to meet up at a live music event. I tried not to think about him or check my phone. Which of course was impossible. The concert was good. I had a good time. But I was still miserable. All of my friends and I were getting ready to go home when I felt someone’s hand on my waist. I turned around and it was him. He had worked late, and took a chance at me being at this concert. He was right. He kissed me and told me he loved me and didn’t want to lose me. My heart exploded in happiness when he told me. I decided to let my fears go, which is not easy for me, and threw myself back into the relationship.
Remember I told you my favorite restaurant was Bonefish Grill? Well I learned later that he hates seafood but still to this day takes me there on our anniversary. That’s the kind of man I am going to marry.
Oh and the white reeboks and weird jeans…they are gone. We plan to marry this year. We have already decided our honeymoon destination- Europe so be ready for some updates along the way.
David, you are truly the love of my life. If possible, I love you more every day. I am so glad I took the chance on you and made myself vulnerable. It’s a good thing my wings “were cold” right?
Thank you for your unconditional love, your silly jokes and for making me smile every day.
Hi 👋 My name is Laurie and I am a Social Media Marketing Manager based in New Bern, NC. I am married to the man of my dreams, a mom and in love with my adorable grandson, Noah. I love checking out new local restaurants, festivals and events while searching for great places to host monthly Girls Night Out. You can usually find me checking out all things live music, the best hospitality in town and working on my campaign to bring Bonefish Grill to New Bern-it's going to happen!!