Five years ago, I heard the dreaded words no woman wants to hear.
I couldn’t have kids…
At least not unless I spent a lot of time and money in the doctor’s office.
At only 22 it was a hard pill to swallow, I had dream names picked out, I knew I wanted a little girl in dance or a little boy that played soccer. At 22 I should have been excited and looking forward to having a family with my then husband, but life had other plans for me.
After a lot of soul searching I came to terms with knowing I would never have a little bundle of joy of my own blood.
Maybe I would foster.
Maybe I would adopt.
I worked a lot, I got divorced, (for other reasons), I moved, I moved again, I got on with my life and I went back to school to learn a new trade and better myself.
It’s funny how life works out. At 22 I was devastated, heartbroken, I thought that I WAS BROKEN.
Turns out that maybe life just knew better, maybe life was waiting for the right time to send me the miracle it knew I so desperately wanted but never thought I could have.
Because three months ago. I took a test.
It was a joke. I knew it would be false but I also knew I had to rule it out for the Dr. before he would do any more testing to figure out what was wrong.
And then you see it wasn’t.
It wasn’t false.
That little plus sign stared back at me and I thought I was losing my mind. I even reached for the instructions like I wasn’t 27 and didn’t know how pregnancy tests work. HAH
Joke was on me.
Because miracles do happen.
And my little miracle is due this New Year’s Eve.
The Instant mom, the one no one considers a mom.
To the girlfriend of a guy with kids.
To the guardian who gained custody.
This is for you.
Becoming and instant mom isn’t easy, I can tell you first hand that it turns your life upside down but sometimes…sometimes it gets turned upside down for the better.
I used to not consider myself a “mom”. They aren’t my kids I would tell myself... because that’s what society would say.
The thing is though, they ARE my kids.
I didn’t give birth to them.
I didn’t adopt them.
I’m not married to their dad.
But they ARE mine.
They are mine when they are sick at 1 am and I’m right there with their dad worried we may have to do a hospital run. They are mine when they wake me up instead of him at 7 am for waffles and orange juice. They are mine when they snuggle me and tell me they love me.
They may not be mine biologically, they may not be mine by marriage… but they are mine, so don’t tell me that they aren’t. Don’t make me feel like I should explain that “oh they are my boyfriends”. Don’t make me feel like I can’t claim them.
Because they ARE mine.
When you start dating someone who has children you must understand you are not the top priority and neither is your significant other. If you want to make a relationship work where kids are involved then the kids are top priority to both of you.
Now, now I am not saying that you and your boyfriend are not important because you are and please do not ever let either of you forget that your relationship IS of UPMOST importance but the kids should come first, especially when they are at a young age.
When I started dating my boyfriend I knew what I was getting in to. I knew he had two young boys under the school age and I knew along with that would come a lot of “mom” like duties even if he didn’t think it would.
You see, when you date a man with kids (or a woman with kids for that matter) they are not asking you to become their parent but you WILL take on roles that are like a parent would. You’ll get up at 3am to put them back in bed. You will wake up at 7am so your boyfriend can sleep in some days.
You will get excited when they come home with school projects they can’t wait to tell you about. You will take them shopping for holidays and birthdays for their dad’s gifts because they don’t have anyone else to and they want to surprise him too. You will deal with bath times and tantrums and time outs and so so much more.
Becoming an instant mom is hard. You go from being single and casually dating to living with a man who has kids and it takes a little getting used to but if you let yourself open-up to the idea you might just realize that it will turn your whole world right side up instead of upside down.
Two years ago, I was single, divorced, I never thought I would re marry or fall in love again or have children to care for and then one day I was an ‘Instant Mom’. I was helping make lunches for PreK and mini pancakes for breakfast with two little ones running around the kitchen asking if they could help me even though they would just make a giant mess in the process.
To the Instant Moms. It’s not easy, it’s a change, a challenge, for some it’s a struggle that is harder than others. Once you get the hang of it, once you embrace the chaos you realize it’s this whole world you never thought you would be a part of but now that you are you have no idea what you would do without those little sticky fingers in your life and their amazing father who trusted to bring you in to theirs.
I wouldn’t change it for the world.
They changed me.
They made me better.
They are mine.
Let's be honest. Who doesn't love pot pies!? I have seen this recipe in so many places and tweaked a little each time so there is no way I could begin to credit the original BUT I decided to share anyway!
Mini Pot Pies are absolutely adorable and such a quick easy dinner. Four ingredients and 40 Minutes! That's all mine took and they could have been faster but I steamed my chicken instead of using precooked!
You will need:
Cream of Chicken!
( Campbell's is my favorite but any kind will work )
( I used frozen but canned will work too )
( What Kind is totally preference! Some even use Croissant dough, however biscuit is more convenient because of its round shape)
( I steamed some chicken tenderloins for mine but you can use canned chicken or a rotisserie style)
You want to make sure to prep your chicken, If you are using fresh chicken like I did I highly suggest steaming it. Its quick, simple and you can get other things done while its cooking. I steamed mine for about 15 minutes, which is all it takes to be just about perfect in my Aroma Rice Cooker + Food Steamer and then diced it up! For Rotisserie Chicken all you need to do is shred it off the bone!
Step 2! If you haven’t already, make sure to preheat your oven to 375 degrees and get all of your other supplies and ingredients ready! (can opener, muffin pan, spoon, etc)
Prep your veggies! Follow the directions on your package but make sure to under-cook them. They will also get some oven time so you don’t want them overdone. I defrosted mine for about 3 minutes.
Add your Chicken, Veggies, and Cream of Chicken to a bowl and mix it up.
Spray a layer of non stick spray (or use oil) on your muffin pan and get ready to make your ‘crust’
Now you can do this two ways.
Fill each dough spot with a couple of spoonful’s of your filling mix. (I used about a little less than half a cup each)
Step 8! Place pan in the oven at 375 degrees for 20 – 25 minutes or until golden brown to your liking. Make sure to watch them as they bake so they don’t burn.
Once done, simply run a spoon or knife around the edges and pop them out.
Voila! Eat and Enjoy!
We chatted with the owner of KDCleans this month and put together a little list of Cleaning Hacks to help you with your Spring Cleaning! We all hate cleaning, ( At least I know I do) but hopefully these helpful hacks will make your cleaning a little easier this season!
A cheap way to dispel pet odors is to sprinkle baking soda on carpet and wait 15 mins and vacuum.
Clogged Drain? Try this!
If you notice your drain is starting to clog, pour a 1/2 cup of baking soda down it, followed by a 1/2 cup of vinegar. Cover with a wet cloth to contain the science fair-like effects. Wait five minutes and then flush with hot water.
Hate dusting those baseboards? Fabric Softener to the rescue!
If you heat the bathroom up just 10 degrees above the normal air temp, it doubles the effectiveness of alkaline cleansers. Let the disinfectants sit for at least 5-7 mins and rinse afterwards. Fill the tub up with hottest water to raise the temperature.
Fantastic Cleaners you probably already have!
Baking soda, vinegar, dawn, and hydrogen peroxide are great cleaners you probably already have in your home, but never thought about using.
Glass Stove top tip!
Glass stove top cleaner: Pour some dawn onto the stove, sprinkle with baking soda and then pour some hydrogen peroxide on top. scrub and mix together and let sit 3-5 minutes and then rinse off. Works so much better than the expensive glass stove top cleaners.
Do you use Dawn? If not, you should!
Dawn is great to clean with, counter tops, windows and glass. To clean glass, put on a rag and wet with water and scrub onto the glass. Use a squeegee to get excess off. Leaves, no streaks.
Do you hate carpet stains? Here's a trick!
Vinegar and baking soda combined are great for getting stains off carpet.
LEMONS LEMONS & More Lemons!
Lemons, are great! Use them to get rid of stains and smells on cutting boards by taking the cut side of a lemon and rub on the stains. For extra power, sprinkle salt and/or baking soda on it first.
"World's Best Glass Cleaner"
Sprayway's "World's Best Glass Cleaner." really is the best glass cleaner. I use a microfiber rag to wipe the glass and a separate dry microfiber rag to "polish" to make sure I do not leave streaks.
Dusty Air Vents?
Wax your vents with car wax to keep dust off them all year long
Clean that Chrome!
Soak a soft cloth with vodka and shine and clean chrome, glass and porcelain fixtures.
Water stains on your tap?
If you wipe the surface of a tap with some wax paper. It helps prevent water stains.
Trying to get rid of that foul smell before the guests arrive??
To help dispel foul smells and make your home smell nice, put a teaspoon of vanilla extract into a bowl and place it in a preheated oven.
Hate that wet trash bag?
Avoid having a wet trash bag by placing newspapers at the bottom of your trash can so it will soak up any leftover food juices.
DIY All purpose cleaner!
For those pesky baseboards!
Clean baseboards, if super dusty, dry dust first. Then take a lightly wet magic eraser sponge and wipe. Dry with paper towel, rag, or air dry and then rub with a dryer sheet to repel future dust.
Not in the mood to do your own Spring Cleaning? Call KDCleans for their availability! They have weekly, bi-Weekly, & One Time Slots.
For our first Girls Night Out of 2017 we went all out at V. Paul's Italian Restaurant on Downtown Palafox. The event was held from 530-830 on February 16th and we had an absolutely great time with approximately 70 ladies showing up to enjoy the night with us. In case you missed the event we wanted to highlight a the businesses that worked with us and give you a chance to shop and support them anyway. Make sure to check their website links below, I personally know a few of them have some AMAZING deals going on in their shops!
To check for our future events click HERE! Trust me you don't want to miss them.
Toppings Toppings and more Toppings!
When you first get to Pieology, you walk in and immediately see the amazing counter of toppings to choose from!
With so many options, they do give you a basic menu you can choose from with some mouth watering classics..or you can venture off on your own and create a one of a kind masterpiece to satisfy your taste buds.
I, however, had NO idea where to start so I decided to have the helpful employee choose for me. I could NOT have picked a better sauce pairing on my own. The touch of pesto mixed with the classic red sauce gave my taste buds such a shock I couldn't stop eating it.
and just in case you cant eat it all!
DON'T forget to stop in and have a pie of you own!!
Are You a Crime Show Junkie?! I have asked around and these 10 are must see shows on Netflix! Binge it up! Some of these shows have 12 plus seasons on netflix already.
1. how to get away with murder
3. criminal minds
5. PERSON OF INTEREST
8. WHITE COLLAR
10. PRISON BREAK
25 days of christmas cheer brought to you by abc family!
With 10 days left to Christmas Eve, your family is probably starting to get in to the spirit. If you haven't watched the 25 Days of Christmas Countdown don't worry! There is still plenty of time to watch your favorites.
Every year December 1st is one of my favorite days of the holiday season. Why? It's the first day of ABC Family/Freeform's 25 Days of Christmas of course!
Some of my favorite childhood memories around this time of year are the nights we would spend eating take out on the couch watching whatever classic Christmas Movie was on that night.
In case your family is the same way mine was growing up, here is a COMPLETE list of the movies scheduled from now until Christmas!
If you aren't quite sure what channel Freeform is on for you or if you have it click HERE for more information.
wednesday, December 14th
Thursday, december 15th
friday, December 16th
saturday, december 17th
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wednesday, December 21st
thursday, december 22nd
friday, december 23rd
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sunday, december 25th
Shopping local gives support to our neighbors and community. This year with the help of our #shoplocal Holiday Directory you can even do some of your shopping from the comfort of your own home! Shop this season with our featured businesses and support your community!
Independent Consultant Naomi Holliday!
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Our all natural products can help you in so many ways! Tighten, tone and firm loose skin! Lose weight! Build muscle mass! Get rid of wrinkles! Lose those stretch marks! Get rid of cellulite! Have clearer skin! Live a healthier lifestyle! And so so much more!
** Naomi will be donating a portion off all sales to help buy toys for local children in need this Christmas **
TAMMY'S JAMMIN JAMBERRYS!
Independent Consultant Tammy Tatum!
Tammy’s Jammin Jamberrys nail wraps are the newest way to accessories your fingers and toes. Wraps are heat activated and require no drying time and won’t chip. They will last up to 2 weeks on fingers. With over 300 styles, you get a salon look for a fraction of the cost.
Holiday Special Offers:
The Unicorn Vault!
490 Channel Marker Street West
Mary Esther, Florida 32569
The Unicorn Vault is an event space that is perfectly decorated for your next party, luxuriously designed for the perfect getaway. Available for hourly rentals and overnight stays, The Unicorn Vault is all things girly, all things plush, and of course, all things unicorn. Contact us for your next party!
BOOK HERE for your Overnight Stay!
HOLIDAY SPECIAL>> Book your party by Jan. 31st and get a free cake for your celebration ($50 value)
The Exquisite Sessions!
The Exquisite Sessions are intimate portraiture sessions by Manda Koolis. Women of all shapes and sizes, curves or no curves, tall or short, deserve to feel beautiful. Society tries to tell us that we are imperfect, but The Exquisite Sessions exist to show that we are wonderfully and fearfully made.
To Book: Contact Manda for your consultation and to schedule your sessions. Gift vouchers are available for purchase as well.
Special Offer for the holidays: $100 off session fee (available until December 31, 2016).. Does not include images or product. All digital and tangible products sold separately.
Autism speaks annual sensory friendly santa event
Reserve your spot now for this years Annual Caring Santa Event at Cordova Mall. Caring Santa is an annual Sensory Friendly event put on by Autism Speaks. Caring Santa provides families with special needs children the opportunity to connect with Santa at the Noerr's Santa Photo Experience in a safe and welcoming environment. This private event is hosted 2 hours before the mall opens so make sure you register below!
Sunday, December 4th
8:00 AM - 11:00 AM
5100 N. 9th Avenue
Pensacola, Florida 32504
This event made possible by:
HI! I'm Veronica and I'm the voice behind the blog. I love red wine, tacos and coffee after 5 pm. I'm a local Photographer by day & by night I host monthly Girls Night Out Events and Networking Socials around town. I'm a West Coast girl living in an East Coast world and I couldn't love it any more. Thanks for visiting Pensacola Housewives!