the longer the wait the sweeter the kiss
September is the half way mark for my boyfriend’s deployment. My boyfriend is in the navy so it’s not easy to communicate from a ship. The half way point…wow it seems like it should almost be over. If any of you have been through a deployment with their significant other you know exactly how it feels.
People are constantly saying things they think is comforting. People who have never been through it will tell you how fast time flies if you stay busy. I constantly get told to be positive and I knew what I was getting into when I decided to date someone in the military. Whether or not someone knows what they are getting into it doesn’t make it any easier. Being at the half way point brings a flood of people saying “see how fast time is moving”. I want to scream NO! People will say it gets easier, it never gets easier.
The first month I pretty much was the least productive person, I ate ice-cream for dinner, stayed home on the weekend, and skipped the gym. Month two rolled around and I started to go out with friends but still ate ice-cream for dinner. Then month I finally started getting in the groove of working two jobs, going out with friends and going to the gym again. So when people say it gets better maybe it does or maybe you get used to hiding how you feel and you have to go out to save your sanity.
My boyfriend and I never really advertised to everyone that we were together or indicated to a lot of people that we were serious about each other. I think this adds to my frustration with this deployment. I have people saying to me that because we have only been dating a short time it should be easy. When you love someone and they leave for a long time it is difficult regardless of the amount of time you have lived together.
Some days I don’t know I get through it. Other days I rock at this deployment thing. I wish I lived closer to my family, but luckily I have made some really good friends. They keep me going when I need a distraction. I try to remember this will all be worth it. The longer the wait the sweeter the kiss! If I were to give someone advice about surviving a deployment I would say lean on your friends and eat ice-cream for dinner!
I'm Debby! I'm excited to be living in such a fun city! I enjoy the diversity we have in Seattle and love connecting with people from all cultural backgrounds!