In 2009, I was invited to an independent music show called Sister Speak at the former Ciceros Restaurant in the U-City Loop. This very eclectic young man got on stage and my best friend turned to me and said, “you’re going to like this guy”. He performed one of his well -known songs at the time, State of Emergency, and I became an instant fan. He smiled at everyone he came in contact with that night. I got the chance to meet him and congratulate him on a great show, and told him I was an instant fan. He smiled at me so graciously and thanked me like that was the best thing he heard all day. He does not know this, but in that moment, I wished he was my friend. From then on I would go to local shows throughout the city and he would be there, sometimes performing, and sometime just there to enjoy and support other local artists. I would run into him at various events throughout the city and he would flash that smile and treat me as if he just saw me the previous day, (even though it had been months prior most of the time. Not even sure if he knew my name lol). From 2009 to the present day, through various social media, music, events and conversations, I am glad to say, that the very unique and gentle human-being I met 10 years ago and wanted to be my friend is now just that. So now, I introduce to you my friend, Mr. Robert Dillard….
Robert, tell us a little about yourself, your music and your other artistic abilities?
My name is Robert Dillard. I was born and raised in St. Louis City. I’ve been a performing artist for the past 20 years and a recording artist for the past 12 years. Instrumentally and sonically, my music changes with my mood and where I am in my life. Lyrically, it’s a snapshot of where I am in that moment. For the most part, my music chronicles the journey of my life. I explore the lessons, the joys, the sadness, and the peace of life through melodic artistic expression. It’s been a beautiful gift.
Describe yourself in 3 words.
Compassionate, Creative, and Sensitive.
At this point in your life what do you consider one of your greatest achievements?
Internally, I am proud of my mastery of self. In our society and culture, it’s so easy to get consumed with external expectation, that you forget who you are and what your individual purpose is. I’ve achieved an inner peace that doesn’t enslave me to public acceptance. Externally, that has shown up in the form of 3 honest studio records, officially filing for candidacy, and remaining healthy in a culture that challenges my health. I think those are achievements that were feats to accomplish.
Name 2 goals you have going into 2019?
One of my goals is to try to understand more. That means understanding my lack of understanding when I don’t understand something. It seems knee jerk to reject what we can’t put our finger on, but I have a goal to dig in more when there’s a gap between what’s happening and how I perceive it. Another goal I have is to win my upcoming election as Alderman of St. Louis City’s 4th ward.
You are running for 4th Ward Alderman in the City of St. Louis in 2019. Tell us a little about that?
Yes. I was born and raised in St. Louis City’s 4th ward, which is an area that was formally the 20th ward on the north side of the city. I have a particular affection for this ward, and I’ve watched it spiral since I was a child. Crime has increased significantly. Vacancy is at an all-time high, and it’s a resource desert. I’m throwing my hat in the ring because I know that there are many steps I can and will take to reverse this downward trend.
How do you maintain a work/life balance?
I’m true to myself. I live my life intentionally, so the work I do doesn’t feel like work so much. My pleasures in life sprout from the same seed that my work ethic springs from. There are times when I get overwhelmed, but when that happens, I trust my body and adhere to its warnings. I make sure to incorporate rejuvenation time into my schedule to prevent burnout. While I’m a firm believer in hard work, I am not a work addict. I live a balanced life.
What are your top 3 favorite places to go or things to do St. Louis?
I love going to Steinberg skating rink during the winter months. There’s something about being out in Forest park at night, skating underneath the stars. I love going to the Art Museum on Art Hill, and I also love taking strolls through the Delmar Loop. There’s so many cultures that come together to meet in the Loop, and I love witnessing it.
You have a show on January 27, 2019 at the Gaslight Theater, “An Evening with Robert Dillard”, tell us about that? And how can we get tickets?
Yes. Performing and connecting with the audiences who appreciate my work is one of the most cathartic experiences I’ve come to know. These shows are beautiful conversations through art. The show on the 27th will be acoustic and I’ll be playing some old favorites, performing some new work, and telling a few stories. You can get tickets online through Eventbrite. Just google ‘An Evening with Robert Dillard’ and click the link to purchase tickets. (link below)
Do you have any advice for anyone who would like to hone their music/artistic abilities?
My only advice would be to create art from the heart. Don’t put it through filters or alter it for anyone’s approval. Before anyone else loves your art, you have to love it in order for it to be true. Whether you’re a dancer, singer, poet, painter, etc., the passion comes from an authentic feeling. Don’t be afraid to explore that feeling.
How can our readers reach out to you? (social media, email, website, etc.)
I can be reached through facebook, twitter, Instagram, my website and email.
Facebook: Robert Dillard
Make sure you get your tickets for "An Evening with Robert Dillard", this Sunday, January 27, 2019 at the GasLight Theater on Eventbrite: www.eventbrite.com/e/an-evening-with-robert-dillard-tickets-50244125532?aff=ebdssbdestsearch Tickets start at $5. Hope to see you there.
Welcome to 2019!!! New Year!! New Start!!! New You? Maybe? It depends?
Going into a new year can be very exciting, but it can become very scary before it even starts. Why is that? Could it be that we go into the new year with extremely high expectations, then we think about what we should have done or could have accomplished the previous year that we did not so we use the NEW YEAR to make up for it? Or could it be that we set typical resolutions (weight loss, save money, travel, etc.) because they are safe and if we don't accomplish them, then we can blame "the forces" of everyday life? Instead of setting resolutions in 2019 let's set EFFORTS to do something. Let's keep it to a minimum for now and build on them or re-visit if necessary. This could be a reason why resolutions fall through, because we set too many and it can be overwhelming. This is something I am trying in 2019. Instead of resolving to blah blah blah, I am going to make efforts to:
1. Pick up a book instead of the remote control
2. Walk around my neighborhood
3. Make time to cook instead of going to drive-thru for convenience (or when Chiptole is near lol).
It is with these efforts that I may lose weight (because I walking more and now paying attention to what I eat) and expand my knowledge, imagination and productivity (because I am not glued to the television or YouTube). Now while these goals are simple, they are a start and can lead to something great. It could also push me to make more EFFORTS that can lead to the accomplishment of some goals I have for 2019. I am thinking with efforts (instead of resolutions), there is no panic to make sure it happens or putting it off because there is 12 months to accomplish them. With EFFORTS- you either do, or you don't!!
What are some efforts you will try to make in 2019?
I simply thought I was meeting a friend for lunch to try out some lipstick she was selling. Of course I was hooked immediately because the lipstick stayed put ALL day and didn’t come off. And of course I was hooked again once I dove in and tried all of the cosmetics and skin care and saw how much my skin improved in just one month. And of course I loved earning extra money and getting products for myself for free. But it was so much more than that. Never would I have imagined when I started this business 1 year ago, that I would meet some very incredible, supportive, hard working, amazing women that would forever change me. We lift each other up, we give each other confidence, we push each other to be the best version of ourselves that we can be. We have formed a strong sisterhood, a sisterhood that began with one tube of lipstick.
I sell for SeneGence, featuring LipSense. We have a full line of cosmetics and skin care, all backed by our satisfaction guarantee. If you don’t like anything for any reason, simply return it and you’ll get an exchange or refund. Check out everything we offer at https://senesite.senegence.com/LippieChick/. Send me a message if you have any questions, or want to discuss what products would work best for your needs.
See them TONIGHT AT OUR RELAUNCH at Rock & Brews in Chesterfield, MO! Click the link for your FREE TICKETS: !https://rockbrewsnetworking.eventbrite.com
Rachel Waldbueser with Lilly Rose Skin Studios offer services that many of us can't live without!!! Her studio is located in Cottleville, Missouri and her services include: Microblading, Shading, Lash Lift, Tinting, Waxing, Spray Tan, and much more. Rachel will be at the St. Louis Housewives Social Relaunch on Monday, November 26, 2018 from 6-9pm. She is offering the first 25 women with a ticket a FREE GIFT CERTIFICATE for services. Reach out to her at (636) 248-0996 to make an appointment and visit her Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/lillyroseskinstudio/
Tracy Curran with NuSkin will be at the Relaunch!!! NuSkin has been in business for 34 years and AP24 Whitening toothpaste has been around for 23 years. AP24 Whitening toothpaste comes in both Fluoride & Fluoride-Free varieties. Great thing is you just brush!!! No messy trays or strips. Brightens and whitens teeth while fighting plaque formation. Featuring a special formula that contains no harmful peroxides, AP-24 Whitening Toothpaste also helps remove stains and aids in the prevention of cavities.
~Safe for pregnant & nursing moms
~Safe for children 6+ (with fluoride)
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~No bleach or peroxide
~No sensitivity or burning
~Vanilla mint flavor (mild & smooth)
~No animal testing .
Tracy will also be adding something AMAZING to the swag bags!!! Visit her website at https://tcurran.mynuskin.com or join her Facebook Group at https://www.facebook.com/groups/2131521310400216/
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If you have not heard of Paparazzi, YOU HAVE NOW!!!. Ashlee Ross, Paparazzi Consultant has beautiful jewelry for $5 + tax. That's right ONLY $5.00. She will be at our relaunch and will have the $5 bling on hand. People are welcome to order directly from her website prior to and after the event & receive shipping directly to their doorstep! All necklaces come with a free matching pair of earrings. For every 12 items purchased you will get 1 FREE ITEM. Everything is lead and nickel free! Contact Ashlee Ross at 314-707-8446 or visit her website at www.paparazziaccessories.com/221575
AND WE ARE COMING BACK. Get Ready!!! St. Louis Housewives in the City is relaunching!!! Why not relaunch at incredible venue for good food, drink specials, music and atmosphere... Rock & Brews St. Louis. Rock & Brews is located in the Chesterfield Valley. While it honors Rock & Roll past, present, and future, there is something for everyone. Rock & Brews offers Rock ‘n’ Roll lovers of all ages signature American comfort food with a twist. With more than 50 local and international craft beers comprising their tap list, it's a beer connoisseur’s dream come true. Rock & Brews even dedicate an entire bar to Missouri’s finest craft breweries. Rock & Brews love the community, so they use locally sourced ingredients in their kitchen and everything at Rock & Brews is created fresh. Come see how we are redefining the American restaurant.
Check out their website at: www.rockandbrews.com/st-louis/
Get your FREE TICKETS for the relaunch at EventBrite at:
The first 25 WOMEN in attendance will receive a FREE SWAG BAG!!
On May 19, we had our monthly Girls Night Out event, except this time, it was Girls Day at the Loading Dock. The Loading Dock is located in Grafton, IL and sits right on the Mississippi River and boasts a full food menu and delicious DRINKS!!
Our event was so much fun! We had two featured photographers, Alton Body Restoration Salon and Spa, Alton Maurices, Abigail's Apparel, The Fashion Lane, Scentsy, Rodan and Fields, Javita, Limelight, Fallon Fragrance, WH Farms, Chloe and Isabel, Pure Romance, Lipsense, Andersen Windows, Mary Kay, Doterra and LLR. Our businesses were on hand to discuss their products and services, had super fun giveaways and demos.
If you missed it or missed speaking to a business, all of the information, as well as photos can be found below. Also, make sure to like our Facebook page to see more from this amazing day. Next month, we head to Syberg's on Market for more girls night out fun!!
Loading Dock Event:
Your Name: Nikki Amsbury
Business website: www.senegence.com/NikkiA / www.facebook.com/groups/GetYourGlossOn
Your Name: Stacie Williams
Business website: https://swilliams73.scentsy.us
Name: Fallon Rae Fragrance
Phone: (636) 466-2933
Name: Lindsay Myers
Business: Pure Romance by Lindsay
Phone: (618) 792-4930
Business Page: www.PartiesByLindsay.com
Name: Lara Krieg
Business: Pure Romance by Lara Krieg
Phone: (314) 620-9550
Business Page: www.PureRomance.com/LaraKrieg
Name: Pamela Melching
Phone: 618 458 7278
Business Page: www.gojavita.com
Name: Brianna Pohlman
Business Page: https://limelightbyalcone.com/bap
Name: Katie Shanks
Business Page: https://www.limelightbyalcone.com/katieshanks
Name: Julie Oplt
Business: Mary Kay
Name Lori Miller
Phone number 217-204-5996
Business page Maurices.com
Alton Body Restoration Salon and Spa
Address: 325 Market St, Alton, IL 62002
Phone: (618) 463-2222
Ladies--where are you? We want to meet you and see you!
What a quick few months... We celebrated our March and April Girl's Night Out back to back...with strong lines of storms both nights. The Budweiser Brewhouse at Ball Park Village is always a favorite with their view right out onto Busch Stadium. Classic american fare food that is reasonably priced and exceptionally delicious. Our second (April) event was featured at Schlafly Bottleworks in Maplewood and with beer brewed right there, it doesn't get any better!!
We featured to fabulous women from the business world. The first is Erin Croley with Chloe and Isabel. Chloe and Isabel is a fabulous jewelry collection that I personally absolutely adore!! You can make purchases online, of course, but with so many deals to be had, your best bet is working with Erin via a party or meeting her at one of our upcoming events. She can be contacted:
Online boutique: www.chloeandisabel.com/boutique/erincroley
Our second woman on a mission was Lindsay Myers, with Pure Romance. Pure Romance is a product that spans from bath and body to intimate and personal. Lindsay is so easy going, down to earth, that you will feel comfortable talking about any and all products. I personally love the Amber/Vanilla body dew and look forward to exploring all the products she has to offer at our May GNO!! Lindsay can be reached via:
phone: (618) 792-4930
They say…it takes a village to raise a family. I have two marvelous, wonderful, smart, funny, beautiful children and I am not the best mom in the world, but I am their mom. I don’t do everything right, or remember every date, for homework, play dates, whatever, every time. My parenting technique is more yelling and semi rhetorical questions. I don’t know that it’s wrong and I don’t know that it’s right, but what it is, is mine. I don’t get to go out with my husband on date nights very often because I don’t know anyone to babysit or have a “full” time sitter and I can’t always afford the night out and the sitter at the same time. My kids don’t spend the night at their grandparent’s house, unless we are there, because distance is an issue.
My husband and I settled about 40 minutes from where my parents used to live, but when my dad died that all changed. My mom lives in town part time and part time with her new partner. She’s wonderful when she can help, but she’s not the hands on, stay around each week, routine type of Nana and that’s okay. It works for her and mostly for us. She has her own life and I have to respect that, even though I wish she was like my grandma and was always there and always okay with us being there- though she mellowed with time.
My in-laws live over 2 hours away and are involved as often as possible. They come down or we go up at least once a month. During the summer, we meet in the middle and the kids will go up for a day or two alone. They are wonderful, just too far.
Simply put, my kids are not used being away from us. What I wouldn’t give to have a village. Stressed, tired, overworked, one mom away from crying…that’s where I live my life…but it’s mine and I wouldn’t change it.
When I was little I remember going to my grandma’s all the time or with cousins, friends of the family, etc. I also remember being home a lot. My parents definitely had a village, but my husband and I just don’t. That’s just how it is and that’s okay, because there are no other options.
We have a small army. Him and me. A little bit of help when they can and that’s enough.
Stephen Hawking once said, "We live in a bewildering world." As a mom, teacher, friend, life-long learner, no truer words have been uttered. It seems just as I think I have something figured out, or have hit mastery level, the world comes back up and says, "Haha, sucker, nope!"
As a wife and mother of two, 2.5 years apart, I completely underestimated how much pressure one child would put on my marriage, let alone two. I love my family, deeply. I love the man I married, the lives that we created, but I would be lying if I said I would do it all again in a heartbeat...it might take two, or three.
My husband and I are not the young, full of energy, excited kids we once were- who had an optimistic and unrealistic view of the future. We are now exhausted parents, barreling toward middle age, trying to raise responsible adults with zero sights set to the future, except to survive each day, week, month.
Last weekend, our exhaustion and frustration of parenting, being tired, having dealt with 3 weeks of the flu, caught up with us in an EPIC way. It was a very unpleasant conversation, argument, that lead to tears, hateful hard words, and both of us in our separate corners licking our wounds to keep them fresh. While licking these wounds and passing one another in silence through the day, play acting in front of the kids all day so they didn't pick up on the situation, it occurred to me, I have mastered much of anything. In fact, I am not sure that I ever will. '
What this EPIC battle lead to, after the wounds started to heal were that we needed time to focus on us, our relationship, who we are together and separate. We need to take time to go out, just the two of us and enjoy our food. We need to discuss our parenting expectations and not expect the other to be a mind reader. We need to not take each other for granted and remember that we are on an exciting, bewildering ride, but we are together.
It's time to push down the safety bar, throw our arms in the air, and enjoy the ride. Life is more than survival and it's time to refocus on all the good it has to offer.
Hey, girl, hey!