Do you ever think to yourself: Is what I am doing enough?
Am I spending enough time making memories with my kids? Am I doing enough at work? Am I doing enough around the house? Am I skinny enough? Am I spending enough one on one time with my significant other?
I ask myself these questions more than I should. More recently, I asked myself “when does one find peace in who they are and what they are accomplishing?”
But what I really want to know: When do we decide that we are enough?
The society we live in puts a lot of pressure on people in general to live up to a certain “norm”. As a woman I find myself in a constant competition with society and its expectations of what makes the perfect woman. Strong, independent, fit, nurturing, sensual, successful, beautiful… Women will go to all kinds of lengths to fit into this mold that society has created for us. The more I try to fit into this mold, the less happy I am with myself. The more I doubt myself. The more I rely on others around me to make me feel my own worth... and that just isn't healthy.
But, society doesn’t determine your worth. I found that I will never live up to this expectation of the perfect woman and now I realize that: I don’t want to.
Women are all too extraordinary to fit into a cookie cut out that is outlined by society's expectations. You are enough and you are perfect.
Now I am not saying put all your goals aside and stop trying to accomplish anything. Goals and ambition is what drives us to DO extraordinary things… but as a woman you are worth more than what society will ever tell you.
As women we should focus on being happy with ourselves and then try to inspire others to be happy with whom they are. We should build up other women instead of tearing them down. We should encourage each other and not belittle. We should embrace each other’s differences and know that one woman’s strength could help support another’s weakness.
Be happy with who you are. You are enough.
This month, commit to being enough. It is not a path that is easily taken but through positive thoughts, words, and actions you can nurture your soul and those around you. Try looking at yourself in the mirror and verbally telling yourself you are enough or maybe leave written reminders to yourself in places you will see throughout your day. I, personally, like to change the lock screen on my phone to motivational quotes that inspire me. I even have a frame that is specifically for motivational guidance… this month it will say: “You are enough.”
And if you have been successful in nurturing your soul to knowing that you are enough, I challenge you to one of my favorite motivational quotes: “Compliment others. Magnify their strengths and not their weaknesses.”
I am originally from the mountainous state of Vermont (no that is not in Canada!) - my passion is event planning and spending time with my little family consisting of my husband, two little boys and four fur children.
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