Have you heard about a new and exciting restaurant that is coming to Wichita Falls?
A residence that locals have called Bluebonnet Hill has sold and the city has set ordnances in place that will allow the 8 acre lot to function as a from farm-to-table style experience. The restaurant plans to grow/raise their own food while also creating an educational environment for the locals. And let’s not forget outdoor dining events!
This historic home turned to restaurant will be an experience to remember. With amazing views, locally grown food, and Wichita Falls charm what more could you ask for?
I’ve been keeping myself busy prepping to get you ready to go to school… probably so that I didn’t have to come to terms that you will actually be going to school. I know it sounds dumb, but the more I think about it the sadder I get. As I sit here and pack then unpack and then re-pack your backpack trying to make everything fit perfectly while still easily accessible so that you don’t get frustrated looking for your supplies, I realize just how much I have been avoiding the inevitable.
For 5 years you and I have been inseparable. We’ve done everything together. I remember those first three days in the hospital like it was yesterday, staring at your beautiful face while you slept and trying to slow down time and soak you in.
I remember the late night and early morning feedings that I thought would never end. I realize now how much I miss those quiet moments we shared.
I remember the first time I heard you tell me you loved me when I was tucking you in bed and how I would say it over and over just to hear those three little words come from you.
I remember when you took your first steps and thinking how I really had my hands full and boy was I right!
I remember all of it.
Your first trip to the emergency room, we were out of town and I felt helpless because your fever was too high.
The time you ate a chocolate chip cookie in the car and had more of it on you and your car seat than I could ever think possible!
The time I had to call your daddy home to help me get you unstuck from under the coffee table because you loved to climb and would turn anything into your jungle gym. I got that one on video!
When you met your baby brother for the first time and instantly fell in love.
I look back at all these memories you and I shared and I hate to admit it but those women in the grocery stores were right, it did go by too fast.
Your first day of kindergarten is closer than I’d like. It has taken me all summer, but now I realize why I am so sad to send you to school. It is because I know I will miss those special moments and memories you will now be making with your new friends and teachers.
So when you come home from school and I want to know every detail of your day, just know it is because mommy misses you.
Do you ever think to yourself: Is what I am doing enough?
Am I spending enough time making memories with my kids? Am I doing enough at work? Am I doing enough around the house? Am I skinny enough? Am I spending enough one on one time with my significant other?
I ask myself these questions more than I should. More recently, I asked myself “when does one find peace in who they are and what they are accomplishing?”
But what I really want to know: When do we decide that we are enough?
The society we live in puts a lot of pressure on people in general to live up to a certain “norm”. As a woman I find myself in a constant competition with society and its expectations of what makes the perfect woman. Strong, independent, fit, nurturing, sensual, successful, beautiful… Women will go to all kinds of lengths to fit into this mold that society has created for us. The more I try to fit into this mold, the less happy I am with myself. The more I doubt myself. The more I rely on others around me to make me feel my own worth... and that just isn't healthy.
But, society doesn’t determine your worth. I found that I will never live up to this expectation of the perfect woman and now I realize that: I don’t want to.
Women are all too extraordinary to fit into a cookie cut out that is outlined by society's expectations. You are enough and you are perfect.
Now I am not saying put all your goals aside and stop trying to accomplish anything. Goals and ambition is what drives us to DO extraordinary things… but as a woman you are worth more than what society will ever tell you.
As women we should focus on being happy with ourselves and then try to inspire others to be happy with whom they are. We should build up other women instead of tearing them down. We should encourage each other and not belittle. We should embrace each other’s differences and know that one woman’s strength could help support another’s weakness.
Be happy with who you are. You are enough.
This month, commit to being enough. It is not a path that is easily taken but through positive thoughts, words, and actions you can nurture your soul and those around you. Try looking at yourself in the mirror and verbally telling yourself you are enough or maybe leave written reminders to yourself in places you will see throughout your day. I, personally, like to change the lock screen on my phone to motivational quotes that inspire me. I even have a frame that is specifically for motivational guidance… this month it will say: “You are enough.”
And if you have been successful in nurturing your soul to knowing that you are enough, I challenge you to one of my favorite motivational quotes: “Compliment others. Magnify their strengths and not their weaknesses.”
I am originally from the mountainous state of Vermont (no that is not in Canada!) - my passion is event planning and spending time with my little family consisting of my husband, two little boys and four fur children.
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