OK, it’s time for our annual real talk, because that’s now a thing right?!
Have you ever felt deflated? Like an old party balloon, like a bike with a flat tire? Maybe like a clown without makeup (okay that is actually scary lol) or even a cupcake without frosting?
I don’t know about you but I certainly have. In fact I am feeling that way right now. The new millenia has left many of us feeling a constant pressure to perform, to be the extra in our profession, the extra in our marriage, the extra in our squad and most certainly the extra in our social media personas.
Being extra is hard ya’ll… like legititmately hard. There are no amount of self help books, Ted Talks, Youtube videos or triple shot PSL’s out there to fully prepare us for what is needed to keep up with all the “extra”, which begs the question, “now what?”.
If there is no special method, magic pill or deep breathing exercise to help, how does one figure out how to get over the hump, out of the slump and back into the swing? My answer? WHATEVER WORKS. Yes....literally whatever works.
My solution? I have not fully figured it out yet. I can say that after copious amounts of netflix, red wine, pizza deliveries and chinese takeout I HAVE figured out that those things AREN’T the solution. I know what you are thinking, what is wrong with all of those things? Nothing. They all are great and in fact, they may all help buffer the negative feels I am feeling on the quest for the solution, however they in themselves are not the solution.
So again I find myself asking, now what? What happens when all of our go to methods aren’t chalking up under the pressure? My process (unprofessional as always) is simply to start being OK with myself and my lack of extra. Telling myself I am good enough even though I am not perfect. I am great enough even in my slump. I am strong even though I am tired. I am still beautiful even though I can’t seem to drop the extra weight. I am still a winner even though I am not in first place.
I am OK with it, OK without the extra and OK finishing with less. There is always tomorrow and the more I am OK with that, the better I will feel about today. Once I feel better about today, the more I can look forward to tomorrow and tomorrow is looking GREAT.
Someone who is not that different from you
A note for the cynical:
I know we are not guaranteed to live to see tomorrow. This message is about learning how to be OK with where we are at as a person and is not implying we are guaranteed life.
Hi, I'm Ashley!
I am a Southside Chicago native, mompreneur, and lover of all things social! I love to travel, meet new people, and practice my role as a self proclaimed food critic & Rosé connoisseur here in the City!
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