When we were moving to Colorado it was exciting and new. Moving outside of the Washington, DC, area was something my husband and I always talked about when we would visit family out of state or new places. When the opportunity to move came along, we jumped on it and figured “why not, we can always come back.” So we went for it.
I remember when we were preparing to move we were soaking in all the time we could with friends and family. We were leaving what we knew. Our immediate family was all within 2.5 hours from us and some of the friendships that surrounded us were 10-20+ years deep. This was a big move. We were given various “tips” or advice on moving and what it would be like. I mean, aside from moving away for 4 years for college, this was the biggest move both my husband and I would make. One piece of advice that has continued to stick with me is “Just keep in mind that it will take around 2-3 years to start feeling like home.” When that advice was passed along to me I “heard” it but I did not really “hear” it or comprehend it. I just thought, “ok...two years for it to feel like home. That makes sense” and that was the extent of my thinking.
Fast forward and it is about 2 ½ years that we have been out here. This is our home now. We love the lifestyle, the area, the weather, the people, the culture, and the list goes on. However, I can say that in my mind, my expectations were that life would reflect what we had back east. I can tell you it does not. It’s not because we have not connected with anyone, its not because we don’t put ourselves out there, it’s not because we don’t like it out here. It’s because it is not our life out east. We cannot expect life to be the same from one journey to the next.
Life is a journey and on this journey we take many paths. Each of these paths are unique and different. Some may be similar to one another but they are not the same. When we move around, switch jobs, have kids, work on self growth, and just make changes then our life changes. These are ALL a part of our life journey. There are going to be times that it is tough, there are going to be moments to celebrate, and there are going to be moments that are just that- moments. ALL of these things are part of our life’s journey and a part of who we are.
I have come to realize that even though I am not meeting the “expectations” I had put in my mind of what my life would look like, that sometimes it is those very expectations that get in our own way of seeing our successes. When we become so focused on what we think something SHOULD look like we miss the reality of what it is...AND let me tell you, sometimes that reality is even BETTER. I have come to realize that I need to keep my eyes focused on the moments, the here and now, and the journey not the expectations.
Hi! I am Lisa Downer, married mother of 3 girls and a 20+ year resident of NOCO! I was introduced to HITC in January 2018 and fell in love with the concept of not only networking with local women in business but promoting/sharing them and what they do!
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