Can you feel it in the air? Love is here to stay. With your wedding around the corner, you can’t help but be excited about marrying your soulmate. However, at the same time, your nerves are probably in shambles.
I mean, just planning a wedding by itself causes your blood pressure to skyrocket. Now, we are talking about planning a wedding, a ceremony, and even a honeymoon. Not to mention the full-time job you need to pay for all of the expenses that come accompanying these festivities.
But, at the same time - this has been something you have dreamt about since you were a little girl. And you want it perfect. Being anxious is completely normal.
Although pre-jitters are perfectly normal, it can become overwhelming. Here are some tips to calm your nerves.
Don’t Hold Your Feelings In
As mentioned before wedding planning can cause stress levels to escalate. However, there are other factors which can be triggering the jitters.
Perhaps having doubts about marrying your spouse? Are you wondering if it is too soon for marriage? Are the thoughts of the future such as having children overwhelming you? If this sounds like what is going through your mind then you should speak to your fiancé.
Having an honest conversation about the future will clear the air of expectations. It will also give you a piece of mind that there are no misunderstandings. This way you are both on the same page and know what is ahead.
If speaking to a friend or family relative sounds more soothing then go ahead. Have a chat over coffee and speak about your feelings to them. They may be able to give you advice on marriage if they are already married. Who knows, maybe they had the same jitters you are experiencing.
Meditate To Reconnect
See meditation as a one-stop - solution to all your problems. Sometimes there may be bridges between what you want from your wedding and what others want from you. Perhaps you want an outdoor wedding, but your in-laws are not keen to the idea.
At times like this, when nobody agrees on anything you may feel like screaming. Instead of screaming we suggest you try meditating. Get in touch with your inner self.
Meditation allows us to connect with the world inside ourselves. After you find your cool go back to planning with a new, calmer mindset. This way there won’t be anybody losing their temper and perhaps compromising can take place.
Leave Room For Surprises
Do things always go your way in life? If yes, you are one lucky star. Unfortunately, on your wedding day, it is almost definite that things will go wrong or at least not as planned.
Whether it is before, during or after the wedding surprises will pop up at any time. I know of couples who have had the strangest experiences. From the wedding cake not being ready on time to their planned outdoor wedding being blessed by torrential rain. Some couples even change their honeymoon destination last minute. One just doesn't know what to expect.
Even though you are going to have the unexpected surprises, make the most of it. It is all about you and your spouse. The material things do not matter.
Relax With Your Spouse
Spend some time with your fiancé when not speaking about wedding plans. When planning is all you speak about of course it is going to cause stress.
Relaxing with your sweetheart will allow you to calm your nerves because you are simply being present. You will also remember why you are marrying him in the first place.
Perhaps, bring out the popcorn and watch some Netflix. If being at home is not your cup of tea then go bowling or have a panic. Do something which you enjoy as a couple. They will definitely also appreciate it.
Once again remember that pre-wedding jitters are completely normal. Everybody who is about to get married experiences them.
One thing to keep in mind is that you have your family and friends to lean on for support. The night before your wedding gather your bridesmaids to help prepare you for your big day. They can also help calm those nerves. Have a glass of wine with them.
If you prefer to be on your own that is perfectly fine. Take a nice, hot and bubbly bath with a glass of wine. Get some beauty sleep in before your big day. Being well-rested will help you have enough energy for the wedding. Remember not to overthink things as it causes unnecessary stress for yourself.
Before getting dressed head down the aisle, take a deep breathe and compose yourself. Remind yourself that you are marrying the love of your life.
Now that you have your pre-jitters settled, you can enjoy your wedding celebrations. Enjoy the rest of your life with your soon-to-be husband/wife.