First of all, I am going to warn you that I’m not a professional writer, so don’t judge my punctuation and everything else. I would however appreciate the feedback in private!
During the weekend I saw about 10 episodes of Season 1 of “Workin’ Moms” and I have to say that I didn’t expect to shed some tears on a couple of episodes. Being a mom is HARD. Now, I’m not dismissing moms who have more than one child, but what I’m about to say is true and applies to them as well. Being a new-mom is HARD.
I have had the privilege of raising an adorable little girl for the last 16 months. This has been the greatest experience of my life! However, the most challenging. I feel identified with many moms of “Workin’ Moms” as most of them are first-timers. I am a first-time mom, and as a working mom it make motherhood HARDER.
Please know that when I say “HARD” it’s not because it’s a chore or because it weights on me, or it’s work I don’t want to do, or because it’s a hassle. Society has done a pretty good job generalizing mom responsibilities. Those moms that have the father of their child present know that many times us – moms will take on the full responsibility of the baby, even if our child’s father hasn’t said he isn’t available or willing to help. There’s something about us moms carrying our child in our womb for 9-10 months that our brains just assumes that child is still in our body!
I for one, am that type of mom that if I have errands to run, if I have a work event, volunteering event, networking event I almost instantly start making mental notes and plans to include my daughter and I assume I’m taking her with me. I sometimes feel guilty asking my husband to watch her while I go and take care of business. It’s not that he isn’t willing to help, but somehow in the very back of my head is a thought that says “I owe him for helping me” when in fact, we’re both equally responsible for watching our daughter, and we’re both equally entitled to have our very own “free-time”
Working-moms. It’s HARD when you’re a working mom, and your child is sick. First of all, you know if your child has had a fever, you wont be able to take her to school or daycare. What’s next? Your child needs to stay home. What does “your child needs to stay home” usually mean? – and I mean usually, because not always, but fathers also do it – This means that mom or dad need to stay home with her.
In my case, I usually am the “martyr” to say. I feel it is more of my responsibility to stay with my daughter home if she’s sick. As a working mom, this complicates myself a little, because we’ve all been at work and all of a sudden a co-worker calls in sick. We’re so quick to judge that we sometimes don’t even believe that person is sick and assume they just didn’t want to go into work today. When you’re a mom, you have those same thoughts cross your head. You like your job, you love your job, your job is fun, if it was up to you, you wouldn’t miss work, but when my daughter is sick, your mind plays tricks with you saying: “I’m going to lose a day of work, but my daughter is the most important thing in my life” “I have the right to use my sick days” “I can’t afford to miss a day of work, should I still take her in to daycare?” “so and so will think I’m lying”
When your child is better and you return to work, you have to face the rest of the battle. You have to face your co-workers trying to give you a hard time for missing a “very important” day at work, other times it’s supervisors or managers not believing you needed a sick day, facing criticism from those co-workers who have no children and don’t understand that sometimes you just can’t take your child to daycare.
These little things make you battle with yourself and your thoughts. “Am I a good employee?” “Am I a good mother?” “Did I make the right decision?”
Circling back to the “Workin’ Moms” series, As a mom, no matter if you’re a first-time mom, no matter if you have 3+ children. You will face backlash from strangers, family, co-workers, etc. and yes, many things in life will have you wondering if you are in fact a good mom. You alone know what’s best for yourself, for your child and family. At the end of the day, what outsiders have to say, sure somethings will help, but others will also destroy if we focus in it. When the lights are off and it’s just you and your baby have a moment kiss them, hug them, love on them because they are the reason we battle so much in our minds, trying our hardest to be the BEST WORKING MOM, and although there will be tough days, they don’t compare to the joy of knowing your child is your child, and knowing that you have the privilege of having them call you their mom.
I have noticed that Seattle is actually a very diverse city!
In the 14 years I've lived in Seattle, I've met people from Guatemala, El Salvador, Honduras, Mexico, Argentina, Venezuela, Panama, Spain, Sri lanka, India, Canada, Thailand, Brazil, Peru, Colombia, China, Korea, Romania, Russia, and many more countries!
What I like the most about this diversity, is that we learn so much about the way people have lived or the way people currently live in other parts of the world.
No matter how different our skin color is, or our weight, height, age, sex, race, or the different languages we may speak. We all speak the same language when it comes to love. Love is a universal language that everybody understands.
Whenever you see somebody that doesn't look like you, it's OK to say "hi", It's OK to give a hug, IT'S OK! At the end of the road, we all want one thing, and that's to be love and be loved. Give somebody the privilege of experiencing love from you, it might just be what turns their world around.
Seattle is truly one of the most unique places I have ever lived. I never knew what May Day was until I moved here. I think May day is a wonderful thing and I wish more places had May Day. I did not march to but I think it was amazing for those who are fighting for equal rights.
According to Seattle Times there was thousands of people marching for immigrants to have equal labor laws. The focus on todays march was shielding immigrants from deportation. while this years May Day was generally smaller than the past the significance is still there. Many people who are marching are not native to the united States and are confident that they are making a difference.
1. The Seattle Irish Club is having a festival Here is what their site has to say about the festival “Explore and experience the cultural roots and contemporary influences of Ireland through live performances, visual arts, hands-on activities, foods, games and a lively marketplace. Irish tunes, step dancing and the Irish jig keep the energy flowing at this Irish Festival.” This sounds like a great please to celebrate Saint Patrick ’s Day.
2. Attend a parade! Seattle is having its annual parade at 12:30 pm, Saturday, March 17th! The parade is starting from 4th Ave at James St, in downtown Seattle. Before you head to the parade be sure to go to Krispy Kreme and enjoy a lucky green donut!
3. Get fit and wear green! Kirkland is having a shamrock fun 5k. The Race starts at 9am on Saturday the 17th. You can even bring your dog to run with you!
4. Visit an Irish Pub! Fados Irish Pub is having a Saint Patrick ’s Day Party, Guinness and a lot of Irish whiskey.
5. Attend the Lucky Leprechaun Hunt with the kids at Magnuson Park! Kids will hunt for special gold coins and win candy, treats, and prizes. The event starts at 11:30 am. The event is geared towards kids aged 6-10.
Since Valentines day is in two days I thought it would be fun to talk about the histories. There are a few theories regarding the day. I Love Valentines day! It is one of my favorite Holidays.
One legend states that Valentines day comes from the Catholic churches St. Valentine. One legend contends that Valentine was a priest who served during the third century in Rome. When Emperor Claudius II decided that men made better soldiers when they were single so he outlawed marriage for young men. Valentine, realizing the injustice of the decree, defied Claudius and continued to perform marriages for young lovers in secret. When Valentine’s actions were discovered he was sentenced to death. He became Saint valentine.
Another legend is Valentines Day was Pagan Festival and the Christians created the holiday to Christianize the Festival. Members of the Luperci, an order of Roman priests, would gather at a sacred cave where the founders of Rome, were believed to have been cared for by a she-wolf or lupa. The priests would sacrifice a goat, for fertility, and a dog, for purification. They would then strip the goat’s hide into strips, dip them into the sacrificial blood and take to the streets, gently slapping both women and crop fields with the goat hide. Roman women welcomed the touch of the hides because it was believed to make them more fertile in the coming year. Later in the day, according to legend, all the young women in the city would place their names in vase. The single guys would each choose a name and become paired for the year with his chosen woman. These matches often ended in marriage.
Regardless of which legend you believe Valentines day can be fun for everyone. If your not a fan of the day its self head to the store the day after and buy half priced chocolate.
Special thanks to Parlor in Bellevue for letting us hold our girls night event! Check out the vendors who made our event awesome!
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Sara was the photographer at our October Girls Night Out! She is amazing! We highly recommend her for any photography needs you may have!
As a relatively new Washington resident I have not had a lot of time to do exploring. Over the past weekend I decided to make a life of places I needed to see in Washington. Snoqualmie Falls was one of them. Its easily accessible, close to Seattle and I heard it was gorgeous. My friend Kacie and I drove to the falls and decided to take the train! The train is seasonal and runs from Snoqualmie to North Bend. It runs May through September and briefly during the Christmas season.
Now that I was this checked off my list where should I go next in Washington?
Big thanks to Maltby Pizza and Pasta for allowing us to post our September Event!
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Jenifer Shelton with scentsy made our outdoor space smell amazing!! Head over and shop!
Lularoe! Everyone loved their leggings!!
I'm Debby! I'm excited to be living in such a fun city! I enjoy the diversity we have in Seattle and love connecting with people from all cultural backgrounds!