Describe yourself in 3 words?
If I had to describe myself (honestly) in three words they'd be, passionate, opinionated, and loving. I love what I love until I have nothing left - and then I keep loving
What are your professional goals for the next 12 months?
I recently branded as a lifestyle photographer for couples and small families. This was a huge step for Elegant Rose Photography! In the next year I hope to build a client base and continue building my lifestyle portfolio. Moving did a number on my small business, but I'm so ready to get back on my feet with photography!
What is your favorite thing about photography?
My favorite part of my "job" (and I say it like that because it's really just one of those passions of mine!) is that I get to meet new people and learn every single session!
What are your top three favorite people/places/things to do in your city?
We haven't been here long, but my favorite things so far in the Winston Salem are are pretty much all food related and I'm not sorry! I loooove the Cobblestone Farmers Market, Duck Donuts, and Wise Man's. I could go on and on but as a crunchy boy mom, those are my "necessities."
Do you have any advice for women who'd like to start their own company?
If you want to start your own company, DO IT. Say yes and go all in with your yes. Don't back down. Figure out the logistics along the way, but know that you have it in you and there's plenty of resources along the way. And if you don't have a support system, reach out. I've got you girl!
Fun fact about yourself?
If I was to attempt another profession it would hands down be to become a certified naturopathic doctor!
What profession other than your own would you like to attempt?
Fun fact about me: I was raised for 10 years in Alaska!
Words to live by?
Be free! Be free in who you are, your beauty, and creativity!
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The mission of Elegant Rose Photography is to create, compose, and capture elegant moments for clients, so that they may keep their short memory for an eternity. Check out some of her recent photos below.
I was under the impression that we would have been able to get some wonderful family photos at our wedding. However we were so busy, on a time restraint and honestly all London wanted to do was go play with her cousin. So alas we have zero pictures of the four of us. We have been wanting to redo our bedroom, add some updated pictures to the house. Especially to include Juniper, so I went on the hunt for a photographer. Alexandria had posted on her photography page that she was looking for models to build her portfolio, so this was the perfect opportunity. I had previously met Alexandria when she photographed an event for us last September at Westbend Winery and she was super sweet. Most importantly I love the opportunity to give young aspiring business women any help I can to grow their business. Alexandria is originally from Vermont, so she is starting her business all over again, that is not an easy task to undertake.
As a mother all you hope is that your children will have their best smiles and generally Juniper is such a happy baby that I was not concerned. Well the weekend rolls around and Juniper is not herself, is easily upset and did not want to cooperate. Panic sets in. Let me tell you that Alexandria was fantastic, so patient and helpful. I took Juniper to the doctors on the following Monday and she had a double ear infection and pink eye. Yet you would not be able to tell from these photos. It takes a talented person to be able to capture these type of pictures through the tears and cuddles we had to give out (not that I ever complain about those). If you are looking for a local photographer please consider reaching out to Alexandria.
Alexandria Bathalon - Elegant Rose Photography
When you first think you may need some mental health care it can be a very daunting feeling. You may feel ashamed, embarrassed, vulnerable and that you have somehow failed in life. This is exactly how I have felt recently. Although the mental health stigma has come a long way in the last 50 years, I feel that we still have a long way to go. On average there is about 40% of people within America that have mental health issues but do not seek treatment.
This week I found out exactly why those people are not getting the help they need. Simply put our mental health care system is broken and needs fixing. I have always dealt with some anxiety and have always pushed it to one side. Putting a smile on my face, showing the world that I am a strong woman capable of anything I put my mind to. Yet inside I often feel like I am falling apart, failing with the everyday things that life throws at me. I am constantly analyzing myself as a mother, friend, daughter, and wife. Always worrying that we are struggling financially, that the house is a complete mess, that I need to sort out the clutter, clean, carve out family time, meal plan, exercise, and the list goes on. When I get these overwhelmed feelings I end up caving in, becoming a hermit, wallowing in my own misery and things get worse.
I decided that this year I would make myself small goals, celebrate in my accomplishments, focus on self-care and take one day at a time. I know what I need to do to improve my state of mind, however, realistically it will not change overnight and so I wanted to speak with someone. I sat down, turned on my laptop and starting googling the first steps of getting help. Most things pointed to reaching out to a counselor and so I plucked up the courage to email some local professionals. My main concern was how expensive it would be and could I afford the help. Also, I did not have the courage to speak to someone in person or the phone yet so in my email, I stated that I would like them to email me back.
Now you would think that the people that handle these emails would be professional and understanding. So far that is a big negative, one emailed me asking for my phone number and when I responded that I was not ready to talk to someone and would like my concerns answered via email I never got a response back. The other place called me, even as I said I had asked them to email me not call. When I answered the lady at first sounded friendly when I asked them what information they would like she replied with “well you were the one who emailed us what did you want, do you want to speak to someone or medication”. I politely responded but informing her that I did not know what I needed that I just wanted some help. She said, “well to speak with someone will be $100 then if you want to consider medication you have to speak to someone else and that is $180”. I was so upset, there was no compassion in her voice, no care for my mental health, I was not being treated as an individual who needed help.
I did not feel comfortable talking with her anymore so I said thank you and she hung out. This is my first experience reaching out for help and as I sure you can imagine I do not feel comfortable going to either of these places. I do not think it should cost $280 to speak to someone regarding counseling and possible medication. This is exactly why people do not get the mental health care they need. Working in a field such a mental health should be treated with great respect, understanding, be judgment-free and have great customer service. If someone does not feel welcome by the receptionist they will likely not even trust the facility to treat them. This week the same company called me again, I informed them that last week I was treated very rudely and they did not even offer an apology.
So for those of us out there who need mental help and some help with what direction we should take, what do we do? If anyone has any advice I would be more than happy to accept it. It has taken me a week to make this blog post, yet I figured I cannot be the only one who is dealing with something like this. This is exactly what this group is meant to be, a safe haven where we can feel comfortable talking about the reality of our feelings. So here it is the real me showing my true colors. That no matter how strong I appear on the inside, I am not capable of carrying this burden on my own.
2020 is already going to be a busy year, yet I am determined to make some changes in my life to make them easier. Between work, my part time gig, full time college, motherhood, being a wife and the house something has to give. I have found that one of the biggest stressors is when my house is unkempt, that is being polite and an understatement. When my house is a mess, cluttered and I am behind on cleaning my mind mimics my house. I am unable to relax in my own home because I am constantly worrying about I should be doing whilst I am trying to enjoy some quality family time. In the end everyone suffers and the house. So I have decided that I am going to go through every room and be ruthless. If things do not have a purpose, have not been used in over a year and I have not missed it then it is going. I am going to try on every item of clothing I have and if it does not make me feel good when wearing it, then you guessed it, it is going as well. Life is too short to be focused on the small things around the house, but when we have less things we have less to clean which gives us more time with those that matter doing the things we love. Its been too long since I have had a good purge so although I know it will not be done in one weekend, I am excited to start and even more excited to see the end results. Let the purge begin.
For some more inspiration take a look at these Marie Kondo quotes: