Its been a while since I introduced myself and since we have some many new beautiful faces I wanted to tell you all a little about me. My name is Chrissy Weaver (previously Moore), 2019 has been a big year for our family. We have two beautiful daughters, London Florence is 7 and we welcomed our second beautiful baby girl, Juniper Orion this May. After proposing on New Years Eve, me and Carl got married this October. We dreamed about having a vintage, 1920's, Peaky Blinders wedding and I am delighted that our vision came to life. I am originally from England and have been fortunate enough to call the United States home for nearly 10 years. Although I miss my homeland very dearly, North Carolina is now my home sweet home.
Now I have been doing the Winston Salem Housewives in the City now for 1 year and I love meeting all you AMAZING ladies. I am hoping that for 2020 we can plan more fun events, work with more women owned businesses, support local charities/non-profits, explore our beautiful city and empower more women. I want you to know that EVERYONE is welcome at our events and in our group. Please don't let the name put you off, we are a diverse group of women, all ages, all backgrounds and all have our own dreams. What we do all have in common is that we all need somebody to lean on, we all have our down days and this group can provide ladies with an opportunity to connect with like minded people. We all have a past, some are divorced, have blended families, suffered abuse and much more. My main goal is to strive to make a difference in one persons life each day. My goal for 2020 is to spread the word about our group and invited people to learn about us. The more the merrier is my moto.
Check out our events scheduled so far for the next 6 months. We are looking for people to partner with and would love to hear from you. firstname.lastname@example.org
December 16th 2019 @ Hoots Beer Co
January 22nd 2020 - 1 year Anniversary @ Vintage Sofa Bar
February 12th @ Earls
March 26th @ Wise Man Brewing
April 20th @ Corks, Caps & Taps
May 11th 2020 @ Incendiary Brewing
This year has been full of so many changes, many of them have been blessings, yet accepting change is not always easy. This past month I have felt really down in the dumps, fighting back my feelings, but let's be honest, it is not easy. One of the hardest things to do when you are down is to pull yourself out of the deep dark hole you feel you fell in. Having my sweet baby and getting married this year have been a highlight. But now here I am, 35 years old starting all over again. I have put my career on hold, my college graduation has been pushed back another year and I feel like I have lost my own identity. When I was pregnant with London, I was surrounded by a group of wonderful ladies that were also pregnant or were new moms. I had my own support network, where we could lean on each other, watch each other’s kids, have coffee together, play dates and drink wine. This time around, life is very different. I don't know any other mom friends with babies, I spend more of my time trying to juggle life and always feel like I am failing.
So there I was yesterday, throwing myself a pity party, drinking champagne at 5 O'Clock (because it's always 5 O'Clock somewhere right?) and I was feeling very lost. I decided then and there that I had to do something about how I felt. And as the saying goes, every day is a new day. Fast forward to this morning, I woke up grumpy, hormonal and tired, but I am determined to make it a great day! The one thing I have learned is that the older we get, the more we become uncomfortable with who we are and our life. It is almost like we become stagnant. We are like plants, we have put down some roots but in order to continue to grow, we need light, love and nurturing. For example, we are always wishing we weighed a little less, had more time to work out, spent more time playing with our kids and sold the unwanted things in our home. The only person who can make all of this happen is yourself. Sometimes it may seem like you are being selfish, but take some time to look after yourself. Because you are not useful to anyone if you are worn out and depressed. Even simple things like taking a relaxing bath, a peaceful walk, starting weight watchers or changing a career. Doors do not open by themselves, we have to get the energy together to push or pull it open.
I have always thought of myself as an optimist, a glass half full girl, not half empty. Yet it is so easy to become absorbed in all of the negatives within our life, rather than relishing in the positives. One of the biggest things I worry about is money. Unfortunately, money makes the world go round and we can't live without it. I have been working in the school system now in NC for nearly 4 years, but when I got pregnant with Juniper we decided it was best financially to take 12 months off, to stay home and sub part-time. Five months later out childcare situation has changed and I feel unable to leave her with anyone else. An amazing opportunity presented itself for me to work at a daycare where I would get paid to look after Juniper, along with 4 other babies. You would think I would be over the moon, which I am, but I am struggling with letting go of my position at the school system. When did we decide that our career needs to dictate who we are in life?
Over the past few weeks, myself and Carl have been trying to focus on how we can better our family. I don't want money for material items, I want to be able to take trips, pay off debt and build memories. When we are gone, no one will remember what car we drive, how big our house was but the one thing they will cherish the memories you made with them. The overwhelming feeling of dread is still there, but today I am determined to accept change and take a new journey. Sometimes we have to get lost in order to be found. We have to be willing to take a detour. It does not mean that we do not make it to our final destination, we just have to take some alternative roads to get there. Instead of being disappointed, I will enjoy the beauty of the ride and take the time to soak up the small moments along the way rather than being so focused on the big things that I cannot control. I am embracing the 35-year-old me, I may not be perfect there are things I want to improve and I will make small goals for me to achieve. Most days my head tells me one thing and my heart tells me another. I now know what people say when they describe having a midlife crisis. I am making myself a promise, to take each day a step at a time. I will celebrate the small milestones, even if it involves making choices I feel conflicted and confused about. I am ready to make short term sacrifices for long term gains. Today Friday, November 8th, I am going to let Jesus take the wheel.