School is back in, the leaves are already started to turn colors, pumpkin donuts are already in food lion and my heart happy! Fall is a warmly welcomed as we embrace cooler temperatures, eat yummy chili and soup, cheer on our favorite football team, pick out Halloween costumes for our kids and enjoy everything pumpkin spice (or not, it seems to be a love or hate thing). But above all my favorite thing about fall is the excitement of travelling and indulging in the everything spooky for Halloween.
So with that in mind I wanted to share some of my favorite scary haunts and places to visit in Savannah, Georgia. Savannah has the perfect weather for visiting in October with temperatures in the mid 70's during the day which means you can still enjoy the beach, history, ghost tours, trolley rides, shopping and historic sites without sweating. I was fortunate enough to live there for a year and I hope to visit this fall.
Hotels: The Kimpton
This hotel has a fantastic FREE nightly hosted evening wine hour from 4 p.m. - 5 p.m, free bike rentals, complimentary morning coffee + tea service and is a beautiful hotel that is located close to everything but yet you feel removed from the hustle and bustle.
Historic Sites: Fort Pulaski
If you are wanting to escape the beautiful city for the day, take a drive out towards Tybee Island and take in some history. The drive itself is beautiful and the Spanish moss on the oaks trees is so romantic. This perfect for the whole family to enjoy, with demonstrations of a musket firing, nature trails, historic videos/artifacts, masonry walls that show its scars and so much more. The children can even become a Junior Ranger.
Take a Haunted Walking Tour
For me there is nothing better than getting up close and personal with everything, the best say to see that is to walk, Cobblestone Tours offers some fantastic walking tours my favorite being the ghost tour or the haunted pub crawl. With Savannah voted as America's most haunted city this is a must to any visit. Each guide is full of knowledge and even dresses the part in period costume, lit only by candlelight and will scare you with all the stories they know.
I could recommend so many places to eat in Savannah, you will not leave hungry. One of the most famous places to visit in Savannah is the Pirate House. Check them out for tales of pirates, great food and make sure to try the Chatham Artillery Punch which includes a 22 ounce souvenir snifter.
River Street is lined with great restaurants and you cannot beat the view with your dinner, here are my two favorites both with different atmospheres:
The River House has one of my favorite meals of all time, Shrimp & Crawfish Etouffee, the cornbread base is AMAZING!
For a more fun atmosphere sit on the balcony at Tubby's, the river views and live music is a must for any visit. Be sure to ask them about the Tankers drink specials when you spot one coming up the river.
This one one of my weaknesses and Savannah like any other town now has a great selection but Southbound is one of the originals and best in town.
With so many beautiful views in town, check out this great list for the best Rooftop bars in town.
If you have kids or just want to take a walk through a beautiful park go check out Forsyth Park.
if you ocean is calling your name, take a drive to Tybee Island. You can combine the trip here with a visit to Fort Pulaski. The views are AMAZING. Fun fact, the war scenes in Vietnam from Forrest Gump were filmed on Little Tybee which is only accessible via boat. If you drive to Tybee another great suggestion is a dolphin tour with Captain Mikes.
My Personal Favorite?
I cannot go to Savannah without eating at The Pie Society, plus I will fill a cooler with their amazing pies and other yummy treats. If you are a fan of British food then you must check them out. If you have heard the lies that our food is bland them you must go here to be corrected. Their steak and ale pie is AMAZING!
Savannah has been home to many movies, see how many famous spots you can see around town from Forrest Gump (Chippewa Square, the scene were he is sat on the bench), The Do Over and many more.
One of the things I have always tried to believe about myself is that I am strong and capable of dealing with anything. It has been nearly seven years since I had my first daughter and the dynamics of my life were completely different then to what they are now. I remember reflecting on the first few months of her life and thinking did I possible have post natal depression? I just thought that it was something that all new mom's experienced due to the lack of sleep, adjusting to being a mom and trying to find out your identity along with where you belong in the world now. So I never asked for help. Now here I am being a new mom all over again, well that is how it feels anyway since I am starting all over again. This time however I am juggling work, full time college, planning a wedding and so much more. 2019 was meant to be a wonderful year full of love, laughter and celebration but if I am honest it has been pretty brutal. I have lost my adopted Grandma very suddenly,, my father in law has had a heart attack and I feel like I am loosing my mind.
Literally the other night I went to my fiance and said you may need to take me to the mental hospital because I don't know what to do. Now had he said go pack and bag so I can take you, I would have run in the other direction. But why is it when it comes to our own emotional/mental needs that we are unable to admit when we need help and we are not willing to accept it. I will be honest it is because I feel like I am weak and failing my family. However how are we able to look after anyone else when we are broken ourselves? There has been many times when I have thought about picking up the phone to call my doctor but I just can't seem to do it. Even though I know I am not the only mother who has ever felt like this, I am not ready to open up,. Admittedly I'm scared of feeling vulnerable. So instead I browsed on the internet and ordered myself some natural supplements.
At least once everyday my heart feels heavy and I feel defeated. Some people would say I need less stress on my plate, that I should take a break from college. But I have worked so hard to get where I am today and if I take a break now it will put me a year behind my graduation date of December 2020. So instead I put pictures on social media that show how happy I am, baby snuggles, baby smiles, selfies with my oldest daughter and family selfies. I guess we do this to hide our real raw emotions but I am discovering that my keeping them buried they just get worse. So here I am exposing myself to you. I was finally going to have to admit out loud that I need help or at least to hear some advice from you that I can overcomes this. I don't want to feel alone. Although I don't think I can bring myself to go to the doctor, to air my dirty laundry nor do I think I am brave enough to go to a support group. Will admitting that I possibly have PPD make people feel that I don't love my baby? If only there was a magic wand that someone could wave over me to make all of this anxiety disappear. I need support and advice because I love my family especially my new baby. I want all of the moms out there to know that no matter what we are not weak, we carried a baby for 9 months and gave birth a life. If we can do that we can conquer PPD, especially if we support each other.
We have had 2 AMAZING events recently and we are so thankful for the wonderful venues in Winston Salem for hosting us. We had our first Sunday event which was a huge success. The Canteen Market & Bistro provided our ladies with FREE wine tasting, great snacks and their seafood super was delicious. We have had some great local businesses that have been supporting us especially Winston Salem Cycle Bar and Sunshine energy drinks that helped fill our swag bags full of products. Chad's Chai came out to give our ladies samples and we even had free chair massages. Last week we had another great turnout at Joymongers Brewing and even had some live music. I am beyond excited for the future of HITC - WS. Our city has so many AMAZING things happening and I hope to help you explore new venues, provide you with networking opportunities and fun times.
July 28th - Canteen Market & Bistro
August 8th - Joymongers Barrel Hall
Canteen - My wonderful hubby to be Carl Weaver
Joymongers - Sara Muncy
Chad's Chai - https://chadschai.com/
Sunshine - Website: https://drinkthesunshine.com/
Facebook: Sunshine Beverages (@drinksunshine)
Rachel Ferraro - Evelyn Rose Boutique
Emily Stessman - Paparazzi
Jennifer Merritt - Mary Kay
I hope you will join us at our next event: September 12th @ Westbend Winery & Brewery.
We are still looking for vendors for our events in 2019 please email email@example.com
I have always been someone who puts other peoples needs before my own, but a few years ago I found myself stuck in a relationship where I felt I could never do something for myself. It took me hitting rock bottom to realize that I wanted to do something for myself, that would enable me to support myself financially, Ever since I was in high school I had dreamed of being. However being the free bird that I am, I dropped out of college to move to the beach, got a little distracted along the way, including boys and a move from England to the USA. Finally in 2017 I was fortunate enough to have my amazing fiance by side who encouraged and supported my decision to go back to college. I completed my associates degree in just 1 year and am now attending Western Caroline University to obtain my bachelors degree. Now I am not saying that this has been an easy journey, there has been times when I have been crying because I have too much to do and too little time, or I have been simply so overwhelmed I didn't know where to start. Last summer I managed to do 7 classes at once online with the community college, whilst also travelling for 5 weeks in Europe. So this summer I confidently figured I would be able to handle 5 classes at WCU. Everyone kept saying to me that I was taking on too much work especially with a new baby. They were soooo right, this has been one hell of a summer! It has been so hard having 5 tough classes, having my oldest baby home for the summer break and raising a new baby. I only had to take 3 out of the 5 classes, but I am crazy and am trying to get a minor in Psychology and my 24 hours in social studies on top of my bachelors. Now I have done very well with my classes all A's and B's, but it has come with a huge sacrifice as I have had hardly anytime to spend with my family. Now I have to remember though, that I am doing this so that I can have more time with my family and have time to make more memories in the future. I only have 1 year left so it will be so worth it in the long run. It has taken me so much determination and hours of hard work but I am driven by my ambition. Going back to college for me was not just the desire to have my bachelors but I really wanted to have a self-validating experience. Getting that postcard in the mail when I first made the Dean's list was so empowering and really showed me that I can do anything when I dream big. It would have been easy for me to take a semester off this summer and focus on all the reasons I couldn't do it. But instead I am proud of myself, we still have over 2 weeks until school starts and I am determined to make the most of that time with my babies and hubby to be. Also we have been renovating a an RV this summer, from the top down - but that is a whole other stressful story lol! The trend here is that all of my hard work leads to something beautiful. What do you want to do this year but have been scared to take that first step?
,With the hot weather here to stay for a while, I thought it was the perfect time to share some of my favorite British TV shows for you to enjoy in the AC. This is just a snippet of some I love, but be warned some of these are binge worthy.
The weather was perfect, the pizza was amazing and the drinks were cold! We had such a fun night with our wonderful local vendors and even enjoyed some local music, as it was open mic night later in the evening. There was a great atmosphere. I was so happy to see familiar faces of those returning and met lots of new ladies as well. All of our swag bags went like hot cakes! Thank you to everyone that came out to support us and participated in the event, we look forward to bringing more amazing evenings to Winston Salem in 2019! I hope you can join us at our next event.
July 28th 3-6pm @ Canteen Market & Bistro - FREE wine tasting - Sip & Shop
Get your free tickets at: https://wssipnshop.eventbrite.com
Incendiary Brewing Company
Cugino Forno Winston Salem
Johnson Coe Photography
Hannah Bourdreaux Burger - Arbonne
Jennifer Francis - Pure Romance
Gwen Sinclair - Color Street
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I am blessed with 2 beautiful happy, healthy little girls and I was so excited for the summer to start. But in all reality we have done nothing fun or excited so far this summer because I been so focused on life that I forget to live.
This summer started with the birth of my second daughter, who entered the world quickly and healthy. The 2 days in the hospital were a nice break from reality, we enjoyed room service, no cooking and were able to be together without many interruptions. But before I knew it we were back home and the reality of life started again. I am pursuing my bachelors degree so that I can become a teacher and so this summer I have 5 classes. So this year I am spending my summer trying to juggle having a new baby, spend time with my 6 year old, college, work, being a spouse and having time for myself. The reality is that I am barely surviving everyday, I find myself struggling to meet deadlines for college, struggling with finances, nearly forgetting to pay the bills, eating the same meals everyday and the list goes on. There is only so much time in the day, unfortunately I feel like I am spending so much time working and doing my classes that I am missing out on being present with my girls. The mom guilt is real. I don't know how many times I have felt like I am failing, like I am being a bad mom, being too short with the people I love because I am constantly feeling stressed.
It is a constant roller coaster of emotions and I don't stop feeling guilty for one reason or another:
I try to tell myself that I am dong all of this to provide for my family but in reality I am so busy that I forget to live in the moment.
I know these feelings are no one else fault, that it is me who’s the problem. I often feel that I am lost, as if I am playing the role of someone else and that maybe I am missing some chain of DNA that all mothers are supposed to possess.
These type of feelings are not healthy, they will eat you from the inside out and leave you feeling so negative about everything in life. I am not saying that I want to be perfect, because lets face it no one is perfect. But I do need to find some balance in my life, everyone keeps telling me I need to do something for myself. That when I take the time to have some me time I will be able to appreciate myself, feel rejuvenated and try to find some balance in my life. All of this guilt means that I care and I need to remember that when I feel down.
Motherhood is tough, women are emotional enough without adding something else to the plate but you know that I would not trade it for the world. I want us to all remember that we are all human, that if you formula or breastfeed your infant you are still a great mom. If you work full time or if you are a stay at home mom you are still great. Instead of focusing on the negatives in life, lets stand up and support each other. Because at some point in life we all need a friend, we need support, someone to cry or laugh with. Some of us may seem like we are strong people but we are just good at playing the part. Winston Salem Housewives is meant to be about empowering women and providing each other with support. So lets come together and do just that.
As you can see from some of the pictures we had a fun crowd tongiht at our event, it was nice to see so many familiar faces, meet some new ladies, we had some fantastic networking taking place and new friendships were formed. This group is about empowering women, lifting each other up, making new friends and providing opportunities to grow your businesses. Thank you to everyone that came out to support us and participated in the event, we look forward to bringing more amazing evenings to Winston Salem in 2019! We have two great events in July and hope you can join us.
July 18th @ Incendiary Brewing - Ladies night out & Networking event
July 28th @ Canteen Market & Bistro - FREE wine tasting - Sip & Shop
Fire Birds Grill
Sarah with Restoration Med Spa - https://www.facebook.com/RestorationMedicalSpa/
Allyson McElwaine with Noonday Collection - http://allysonmcelwaine.noondaycollection.com
Jennifer Merritt with Mary Kay - www.marykay.com/jmerritt2
Firstly I want to apologize for the lack of posts the past weeks but we have been busy adjusting to a family of 4. We welcomed our second daughter Juniper Orion into the world on May 29th weighing 7lbs 2.4 Oz's. She is a very healthy and happy newborn, but I forgot how difficult it can be juggling life's responsibilities and get enough sleep. I am a driven lady but often I take on too much. I signed up for 5 college classes this summer thinking that I would be able to handle everything, work, college, be a great mother and find time to enjoy life. Let me be honest to say that I feel like I am suffocating under everything, but life must go on and I need to be a strong role model for my girls so I will be facing the challenge head on.
After 9 months of waiting we are overjoyed to have our baby with us but the recovery period is real. For anyone that has just delivered or will be delivering don't punish yourself for being tired and feeling like you are living an emotional roller-coaster. Growing a human being is an amazing process but you cannot expect to recover quickly, remember to ask for help when you need it and take time for yourself. Full recovery from childbirth can take weeks even months, but remember what an amazing thing your body has done and that you deserve time to rest. Listen to your body, do not rush things, even if you only manage to sleep, rest and take care of your family that is enough, do not over do it.
I myself was not prepared for the abdominal pain, the birth itself was easier the second time around but the recovery pains were much worse, I was so excited to be able to sleep better, eat more, less acid reflex and enjoy an adult beverage but my body had other things in mind. I was in pain and had awful nausea. It is also 100% normal to feel sad even thought you should feel over joyed, 70-80% of women experience baby blues so remember you are not alone. Lets also not forget the constipation, hemorrhoids, perineum soreness, sore breasts, stitches, those wonderful sexy mesh underwear you get to wear at the hospital with the huge pads! Bear in mind that you will have a lot of water retention and that weight loss will take a while. I remember with my first that I must have lost at least 15 lbs after giving birth with the baby out, placenta and amniotic fluid but when I weighed myself I had only lost 5lbs. It took me months to loose the excess water I had taken on and I remember feeling really depressed about the way my body looked.
Remember that you are superwoman, you grew a human and gave new life to this crazy world we live in. You are not weak, you are human and we all need support sometimes. I have already worried that I will drop Juniper on the concrete and that I won't hear her in the night if something happens.
Spring has officially sprung in Winston Salem and the weather is meant to be beautiful, sunny but hot. I wanted to share some of my favorite things to do this month in the area with you, because we are so lucky to be surrounded by beauty in this wonderful part of North Carolina.
One of my favorite places to visit this time of year is Old Salem, with lots of opportunities for family fun, history, farmers markers and lots of great places to eat including my personal favorites the tavern and the tea room.
This weekend we have some fun local events to check out.
The 19th annual wine festival at Tanglewood Park: http://ncwinefestival.com/
Tanglewood has something for everyone walking trails, playgrounds, swimming pool, horse riding stables, golf, camping tennis and now even soft golf. It is a must for at least one trip this summer.
If music is your thing then check out the Gears & Guitars festival downtown at Bailey Park this weekend: https://www.gearsandguitarsfest.com/
Go support our local MILB team the Dash: https://www.milb.com/winston-salem
Its a great time for some family fun, Be sure to check out the website for the specials including Free Food Monday, taco Tuesday, Thirsty Thursdays and Fireworks Friday. It really is great affordable fun for everyone.
If you have never been to Historic Reynolda House they are holding a fantastic walking tour of the garden and grounds on May 31st 2019. http://reynoldahouse.org/calendar/event/historic-reynolda-grounds-and-gardens-walking-tour-0
Another fun event happening this month on 31st May is the WS Firefly Market with live music and local craft vendors. https://www.facebook.com/fireflymarketws
If you are like me and love fresh fruit this time of year take a trip and go strawberry picking at Hedgecock Strawberry Farm, 3011 Abbotts Creek Church Rd, Kernersville, NC 27284.